Let’s Hear It For the Boys

“To the men of our world, to our fathers and brothers and husbands: Thank you.”

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Probably like you, I have a lot of women I love and admire. I keep them in a growing corner of my heart, these women that inspire me to be fearless and strong, alive and holy. My sisters, my mothers, my friends, they are singing freedom and guts to me down through the ages, from the pages of Scripture as apostles and leaders to the church mothers to my humble friends of these days, here in my daily walking around life. Yes, you, my sisters through the words of SheLoves here, you are part of that, too.

But today, may we say this, here in this little corner of the Internet, dedicated to the voice and experiences of women? 

To the men of our world, to our fathers and brothers and husbands: Thank you.

Thank you for standing up for, and with, us. We see you loving the women in your life well, we see you honouring us–your wives, your sisters, your mothers, your grandmothers, your daughters, your friends–we see you serving with abandon, we see you hungering for justice, we see your dedication to purity, to wisdom, to knowledge, to honour, to respect, to beauty, to mercy. We see you working and loving and fighting and dreaming. We see your heart, your mind, your strength.

Thank you for studying and researching, for writing books, for blogging and speaking, for teaching and pastoring and leading your brothers by example, in word and deed, for releasing fearful rhetoric and embracing conversation.

Thank you for sticking around. Thank you for being a real dad, day in and day out, thank you for all the ways that you love us, seen and unseen.

Thank you for choosing to grow up, to leave behind the childish and destructive appetites for pure goodness.

Thank you for living true manhood, true fatherhood, in a spirit of faithfulness and humility.

Thank you for your tenderness, your gentleness, your peace-making heart.

Thank you for engaging joyfully in mutually submissive marriages, for raising your daughters alongside your sons to ask themselves “What has God called you to do with your one wild and precious life, my darling?

Thank you for honouring work as holy and shared co-creation. Thank you for pausing in your talking to listen to us, too, for making space for our voice, for inviting us. Thank you for living a better truth.

Thank you for building this beautiful picture of life in the Kingdom, all of us working alongside each other, as a seeking, a vision, a motley collection of prophets, a foretaste, a sign, all of us with different stories, different reasons, different voices, crying out and praying and working and welcoming, for freedom and wholeness, for restoration and redemption.

We see you.

We honour you.

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So, my SheLoves friends … your turn:

  • Who is the man in your life that you wish to thank today? And why?

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He Is: For Father’s Day, Relate Church has created this beautiful wallpaper (for your phone or desktop or Pinterest board) to inspire us as we pray for, love and believe in the men in our world. Download your own copy here.

Sarah Bessey

Sarah Bessey

Sarah Bessey is a writer and an award-winning blogger. She lives in Abbotsford, British Columbia with her husband, Brian, and their three tinies, Anne, Joseph, and Evelynn. Her first book, Jesus Feminist (Howard Books), will be out in November 2013. Sarah is an editor at A Deeper Story, and a contributor at SheLoves Magazine. She is a happy clappy Jesus lover, a joyful subversive, a voracious reader, an unrepentant hashtag abuser, and a social justice wannabe.
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  • http://sacredeveryday.ca Jenn

    How many time can I comment on a post by you sarah and say it was beautiful and made me cry?

    It has been a long journey for me and my dad and I love this place we are at now, where he is my biggest champion and encourager….when I rant and rave about how women are treated in the church in his maturity he reminds me of grace and that we’ve all been there. He’s a listening ear and a voice of wisdom in my life. He gives me permission to be me. The same dad who once told me his little girl that she could never be a pastor, now pushes me daily to minister.

    And of course my husband who has never batted an eye when I wanted to have our babies at home, then sleep with them and on and on. His sacrificial love and support of all my craziness. Always respecting my opinions and choices as equal to his own.

    For these and many more I am thankful.

    • Sarah Bessey

      Wow, Jenn —> “The same dad who once told me, his little girl, that she could never be a pastor, now pushes me daily to minister.” That’s AMAZING. What a story. Love.

  • http://www.shelovesmagazine.com idelette

    My husband is my hero. He has shown me what a dad looks like … He loves to have fun with the kids, he cuddles with them, loves them, he can’t wait to be with them. He loves to just hang out with them … He teaches them how to crack eggs and throw water balloons. He tickles them and falls asleep with them. He is a good man.

    My father-in-law is another good man. I am thankful we get to raise up another McVicker man in our home.

    I am thankful for my dad for his sense of adventure and his love for languages and other cultures … I got that from him.

    I am thankful for Pastor John Burns who shows me what a dad is who stands for generations. The way he loves his wife, his daughters and the Mercy Girls with all his body and strength and heart … so beautiful.

    • Sarah Bessey

      Such a legacy of good men for your Shay, Idelette! Love.

  • Nicole Joshua

    My husband is my hero. He loves wholeheartedly, unconditionally. In fact, I know about God’s inconditional love because of the way my husband loves me. He is generous. He shows me what it means to live a balanced life. He loves his family deeply. He loves God deeply and has a beautiful spirituality.

    My dad is my hero because of how he loves my mother and me and my sister. He is really good with hands – he can build cupboards, fix things. He has a wonderful sense of humour. He ‘s like the CNN of our family, which is hilarious.

    This is dedicated to the two heros in my life, both of whom I love deeply!

  • http://www.CreeksideMinistries.blogspot.com Linda Stoll

    To the incredibly skilled professors who trained me to become a pastoral counselor, even while acknowledging that it might be hard to get a ‘seat at the table.’

    To the pastor who saw the promise, allowing me to live out my calling and giving me ‘a seat at the table,’ even at great cost to himself.

    To my dad who gave me a blessing, calling my writing ‘a Special Gift.’

    And to my husband, who walks beside me day in and day out, giving me balance, sanity, and a grounded perspective so unlike my own.

    Thank you.

  • http://drgtjustwondering.blogspot.com Diana Trautwein

    Lovely, Sarah – as always. All three of the dads in my life have been heroes for me – my own dad (whom I wrote about this week), my FIL and my husband. Wouldn’t be who I am without them.

  • http://somewiseguy.com ThatGuyKC

    You’re welcome. And thank you.

    If I may make a sweeping generalization… I do not think women understand the power their words have over the significant men in their lives. When my wife calls me her hero, when my daughter says “I love you”, when my mom tells me she is proud of me… I can stop a speeding bullet.

  • http://www.emilywierenga.com emily wierenga

    Thank you for honouring work as holy and shared co-creation.

    LOVE this sarah. love how you love.

  • http://www.missindeedy.com Missy

    Hear hear! I’m a new commenter/follower around here. I’m so thrilled to start right at this post.

    I don’t always “honor” my man the way I should, but lately (and I can’t help but wonder if it isn’t timely), I’ve been noticing more and more the ways my husband is truly amazing. I’d say that I’ve only noticed recently what a rock he is to our family, but in reality, he’s always been that. And I’d say that I only just noticed how often he takes a backseat to my hopes and dreams and thoughts when, really, he’s been doing that since the day we met. I think I’m most grateful that God has given me new eyes to see how awesome this union is specifically because of how awesome this man is that’s been lent to me here on earth.

    Thank you for a wonderful post!