Love Letter to my Body: It is Good


“This mulatto, wild-haired, freckled, curvy thing drowning in a sea of white, blonde, skinny and perfect. You never stood a chance.”

By Alyssa Bacon-Liu | Twitter: @alyssabaconliu

Dear Body,

 It’s so easy for me to talk about all the things I don’t like about you. I could do that without even thinking. Thighs. Stomach. Skin. Hair. Teeth. Feet. Fingernails. There’s always something, isn’t there? Something you are doing wrong. Something I can’t wait to tear down and criticize and be disgusted with. Something I absolutely cannot stand about you.

Because I’ve always wanted to change you. Because I’ve never known you to be synonymous with beauty. Because no one around me that was beautiful ever looked like you. This mulatto, wild-haired, freckled, curvy thing drowning in a sea of white, blonde, skinny and perfect. You never stood a chance.

But please trust me when I say that I was wrong about you. So wrong. I projected my insecurities onto you. I wasted so much time loathing you and cursing you. I spilled tears and ugly words all over you. I tore off little pieces of my heart and gave them to any guy that would tell me all the things about you that I never believed.

What I did believe were the lies in the changing of channels, the turning of glossy pages, the constant barrage of images and not-so-subliminal messages that told me I would never be good enough as long as I was in this body. And I hated you for it.

But despite my cruelty and disrespect you have been so gracious. And you have given me so much.”

These legs that I always thought were too long. That have walked along the Great Wall of China. That have hoisted you up onto the back of a camel at the base of the Pyramids of Giza. That have wandered through the gardens at Versailles and stood under the Eiffel Tower.”

These hips that I always thought were too wide. That have stayed up all hours of the night dancing with abandon. That will one day balance my babies as I attempt to be superwoman. That make me feel like a goddess in a tight dress.

These lips that I always thought were too full. That have spoken truth and wisdom and counsel when needed. That have whispered confessions of love in the dark. That responded to the call, “You may now kiss the bride.”

This stomach that I always thought was too big. That still gets butterflies when my husband looks at me that way. That feels so good when I can’t stop laughing. That will one day make room for another life.

This blood that I always thought was too confusing. That is on the right side of history. That is a testament to courage and justice and redemption. That allows my heart to beat with some and bleed for others.

I look in the mirror and I don’t see perfection. But I see you. And that’s enough for me. And I have this husband now. He looks at you and smiles at you and wants you and praises you and affirms all the things about you that I should have known all along: that you are wonderful and rebellious and strong and unmistakeably beautiful.

This body. My body. That was formed from dust and breath and love. We have only just begun.


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On bodies like Datsuns + saving the bacon + squeezing Grandma’s hand + beauty scars + body parts that give comfort. We know, we are learning: this body, this temple, it is good. More excerpts from the beautiful submissions to our Love Letter to My Body synchroblog.

I was thinking that if my body was a car, it’d be more like a bomby Datsun than a classy sports car; the type of car you can accidentally scrape and bump without getting too upset about it. But I prefer to think of my body–the outside at least (the inside’s all temple, man)–as a mixed media artwork; ink prints and etches and stretches in skin. Each mark adding to the story of my life: my tattoos speaking of my love for Jesus and language and music and family, my adventurous scars telling tales of minor mishaps and major injuries, my stretch marks repeatedly marvelling: “I was once a home!”

I grew a little person inside of me! See here, I am proof!” And my body will continue to change with time, my artwork one day topped with a mop of grey which will say, in its wise old voice, “I have lived long enough to learn a few things,” and my face, wrinkled with wise old lines, will add, “I have laughed a lot!”

Read Belle’s full post here.

I’m trying to take care of you, so we can grow old together. I’ll try to save bacon for the very special moments and feed you more vegetables. But I don’t think I’ll be giving up ice cream any time soon. Let’s go running and biking and to jazzercise to dance our heart out. I’ll wear sunscreen when I’m at the lake, even though I really want a glowing tan.”

Read Kelly’s full post here.

That scar, maybe it means that Love lives in you. Those lines, maybe they mean we have laughed hard and smiled at strangers. That cellulite, maybe it marks feasts and celebrations with family & friends, babies carried and born, wine and joy and chocolate licked off beaters and not ignorance or shame. What if the curve of our hip and rounded waist are the wondrous mark of a life gifted with plenty and not lack?”

Read Rachel’s full post here.

“So instead, I’ll tell you that from the first, I loved you. You gave me comfort. Thumb in the mouth, finger in the bellybutton. My classic move; part comfort, part people blocker. Introversion starts early.”

Read Jenn’s full post here.

God spun a tale of history in your calloused hands and your big calves. God looks at you, oh body, and delights, God says, ‘It is good.'”

Read Mary’s full post here.

I remember how it felt in the midst of all of those questions, when she squeezed your hand three times, in a slow and gentle rhythm, as if to say ‘I love you’ one last time. I remember the tears of joy streaming down your cheeks, and the comfort of knowing that as fragile as life in this body may be, the best is yet to come.”

Read the rest of Meg’s post here.


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Image credit: Hair, by Juan Hurtado

Idelette McVicker
I like soggy cereal and I would like to go to every spot on the map of the earth to meet our world’s women. I dream of a world where no women or girls are for sale. I dream of a world where women and men are partners in doing the work that brings down a new Heaven on earth. My word last year was “roar” and I learned it’s not about my voice rising as much as it is about our collective voices rising in unison to bring down walls of injustice. This year, my own word is “soar.” I have three children and this place–right here, called–is my fourth baby. I am African, although my skin colour doesn’t tell you that story. I am also a little bit Chinese, because my heart lives there amongst the tall skyscrapers of Taipei and the mountains of Chiufen. Give me sweet chai and I think I’m in heaven. I live in Vancouver, Canada and I pledged my heart to Scott 11 years ago. I believe in kindness and calling out the song in each other’s hearts. I also believe that Love covers–my gaps, my mistakes and the distances between us. I blog at and tweet @idelette.
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  1. Writing my Love Letter to My Body was such a wonderful and rewarding experience in ways that I probably still have yet to realize. I cried while writing it; I smile when I read it. Every time those negative, hateful thoughts about my body try to creep into my mind, I use my Love Letter as a mantra: “This body, my body…” I’m learning to be intentional about validating my worth and my beauty. I am truly honored that my Letter is being featured on your site.

    With So Much Love,
    Alyssa <3

    • Aww Alyssa… I really liked this friend. My hips, in particular, really need to hear this love letter.

      Hips “that make me feel like a goddess in a tight dress”…

      I need to own that. I really hate on my thighs in tight dresses. I’m always jealous of girls who float in a dress; girls who wears dresses without showing the contours of their thighs.


      Instead of “oh-no-there’s-that-bulge-again”….I could choose to think “there’s-that-curvacious-goodness-that-makes-me-a-goddess.”

      What a novel concept. 🙂


      • Thank you so much Tina!! I’m glad that part of the letter resonated with you. I have such a hard time accepting parts of my body that don’t look like what actresses or models look like. But then when I really stop to think about it…why should I even WANT to look like that? Yes, those ladies are beautiful…but because I look different than them does that make me not beautiful? Why can’t everyone be beautiful in their own way?

        So yes…rock that tight dress! Show off those curves!! We all have wonderful, amazing bodies that we should be proud of! 🙂

        Thanks for reading & thanks for the comment!

  2. I am so glad you published Alyssa’s letter! I love her honesty 🙂

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