2014 IN REVIEW: Three Legs of Our SHELOVES Chair

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2014

It’s that time of year when I reflect on our 365 days together.

So many good things happened this year. As I write this, I get to sit in the sacred space that many of you SheLovelys gifted to me at Christmas last year. The room took shape throughout this year: A new laminate floor, a beautiful rug, a large desk, a small blue tufted leather couch, a fluffy coral juju hat, soft throws. I sit in this space and I am in the presence of Love. The room is lined with Love and it’s not hard for gratitude to flow and flow and flow. I can’t sit down here without saying a, Thank You, God. Thank You for our Sisterhood. Thank you. Thank you.

IDELETTE

Personally, there’s much to be thankful for this year:

  • Our family built and opened a restaurant in May and it’s bustling.
  • We celebrated my parents 50th wedding anniversary in Provence, meeting each other in this heavenly place halfway around the world.
  • We hosted the lovely Gabby from Korea for five months.

Here on SheLoves, many good things happened:

In January, Leigh Kramer started our Red Couch Bookclub. And she’s doing a mighty fine job.

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We also launched our Stop the Silence Initiative, under the wise leadership of Amy Rasmussen Buckley. Month after month, women (and men) wrote out their stories of abuse, breaking through silence and isolation. It’s been an honor to be part of this.

Our team has grown:

We welcomed three new editors to SheLoves this year: Michaela Evanow, Bethany Suckrow and Claire Colvin. All three amazing women I am so proud to know and learn from.

Megan Gahan became our Submissions Editor, managing all the submissions and moving our team to a place of organization and strength. (Even after she’d just given birth!)

Sarah Joslyn made us look beautiful, creating ALL the daily images and graphics. (The girl deserves a halo.)

We expanded our Social Media Team to include Nicole Joshua and Siki Dlanga. These two women share the first Facebook post from South Africa every day. (How cool is that?) Both are powerhouses, but they are willing to serve our community in this humble way. We are so grateful. Daniela Schwartz still faithfully takes care of the other two Facebook shares, while Rebecca Graham has managed to lead the charge on Twitter right through chemo and several health challenges this year. That girl is a tiger.

We started a behind-the-scenes SheLoves prayer group, under the leadership of Anne-Marie Heckt. These faithful women hold us up every week.

In April, we sent Sarah Joslyn to the Festival of Faith and Writing where she gathered a few SheLovelys together. One of our favourite quotes came from that meeting, thanks to the beloved Abby Norman. She said, “SheLoves is the safest place on the Internet.” We work so hard to foster that—holding trust and Sisterhood high as some of our core values. To hear it echoed back to us was a GIFT.

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This summer, we welcomed FOUR new babies to our community: Kaya, Kellan, Theodore and Ezra. Editorial meetings haven’t been the same since. (In the best way!)

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Sarah Joslyn started building her Tiny House. Watching this woman work on her house has been an extraordinary picture of empowerment.

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In August, Heather Caliri hosted our first ever Mentoring Week and after the wonderful job she did soliciting and curating the submissions, we asked her to join our team as a Special Projects Editor.

Our October series on “We are the Other” felt like one of the most important conversations we’ve had the privilege to host.  I feel strongly that we have this platform for a reason and I look forward to hosting more conversations like this. We need to keep asking,

  • What conversations do we need to have on SheLoves that we are not having?
  • What conversations are we uniquely able to host?

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Rose Woller (part of our strategic pod) and Winnie Lui, our Saturday Editor, became pregnant, both expecting babies in 2015.

In November, we moved our whole website (and 32,000+ comments) to a new host. The transition was smooth and we no longer have to watch if the site has suddenly, unexpectedly, gone down. No more emergency texts. #Hallelujah!

As you can see, it’s been a good year. We’ve built strength, we’ve streamlined and we’ve initiated new projects.

Then, in the midst of the Christmas bustle, I was sitting at a Starbucks in our mall in early December. The power was out at home and I honed in on a warm place with wifi.

I’d been having a vague sense that this year was a good year, with so much to be thankful for, but something was missing. I hadn’t been able to put my finger on it.

I randomly opened the Introduction to the draft of the book I’m working on and started reading my own words:

“This is a book about deep and rich community. I borrow that concept from a talk by Donald Miller at The Justice Conference in 2014 when he summarized Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning. I’d read Frankl’s book, describing his survival through a Nazi death camp and his work as a Swiss psychiatrist, and I was deeply moved by it, but it was in hearing Miller sharing what he’d learned from Frankl’s book that the light went on for me. He said:

In order to live a meaningful life, we need three elements:
– A deep and rich community
– A redemptive perspective on our suffering
– Participation in something larger than ourselves.

When Miller mentioned those three elements, I realized that those were the three elements we try and live out on SheLoves: 

– What happens on a daily basis is part of creating and fostering deep and rich community.
– In writing out our stories, we gain a redemptive perspective on our suffering
– Participating in projects to serve our world, we find deep meaning and purpose.”

Sitting in that Starbucks on that early December day, I had another lightbulb moment. A sobering one.

We’d missed a leg of our three-legged stool this year.

We participated in small ways, giving back to our world. But not in big ways. 

In May, we came alongside Cynthia Cavanaugh and raised money for women in Uganda and Moldova.

We also rallied locally to raise our voices when we learned about 273 Nigerian school girls snatched from their dorm. Together, we said, This is NOT OK. #bringbackourgirls

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We didn’t do a major project this year. We did TWO huge projects in 2013–raising over $11,000 to build a well in Bubanza, Burundi and more than $10,000 to Keep A Girl in School in Uganda. Two huge projects and a small volunteer team took a toll, I guess. With everything going on in our personal lives (restaurants, babies, grief and health), this was a year in which we didn’t step out in one of those big ways.

But that day in Starbucks, I realized: Not stepping out is NOT an option. We can’t miss this leg of our stool.

Serving our world, giving to the women in our world and strengthening and empowering women in our global circle, is part of why we exist.

I don’t want to miss that again.

2013 was a good year. A blessed year. A year in which we gained strength, more organization and flow. I am ridiculously thankful.

I also learned a big lesson, something that will surely spur us on in 2015. We need all three legs of our SheLoves stool. All three are important. We can’t miss out on any one of the three.

As we say goodbye to 2014, I am grateful, I feel sober AND I am hopeful.

I re-read these words by Siki Dlanga— words that we’d rung in the new year with in 2o14—and I let them wash over me afresh:

I am drunk with hope
I refuse to sober up
I am pregnant with possibility
I refuse to abort
I have planted
this good seed
I will not dig it out
I am waiting
in anticipation
To hold my good promise
And I am drunk with hope.

Dear SheLovelys, thank you for being an incredible community of women … a Sisterhood. You are a gift to me, to each other and to our world. I am deeply grateful to walk this journey with you.

Watch out, 2015!

With Love,

idelette
XOXO

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Idelette McVicker
I like soggy cereal and I would like to go to every spot on the map of the earth to meet our world’s women. I dream of a world where no women or girls are for sale. I dream of a world where women and men are partners in doing the work that brings down a new Heaven on earth. My word last year was “roar” and I learned it’s not about my voice rising as much as it is about our collective voices rising in unison to bring down walls of injustice. This year, my own word is “soar.” I have three children and this place–right here, called shelovesmagazine.com–is my fourth baby. I am African, although my skin colour doesn’t tell you that story. I am also a little bit Chinese, because my heart lives there amongst the tall skyscrapers of Taipei and the mountains of Chiufen. Give me sweet chai and I think I’m in heaven. I live in Vancouver, Canada and I pledged my heart to Scott 11 years ago. I believe in kindness and calling out the song in each other’s hearts. I also believe that Love covers–my gaps, my mistakes and the distances between us. I blog at idelette.com and tweet @idelette.
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  • Nicole A. Joshua

    It has been an honour and a privilege to serve this community and to be part of this sisterhood. I have been ministered to, fed, encouraged, challenged, enlightened, nurtured in this space, Idelette, and cannot thank you enough for inviting me to be a part of this amazing work.

    Thank you for being a leader I want to follow. Thank you for showing me, and the world, the power of owning your voice. Thank you for your love, support and encouragement of me and my writing.

    You are such a powerful woman, with a powerful voice and a heart that loves in huge ways. I love you, my African sister, and am excited about continuing on this journey of life and sisterhood with you.

    • O, you have the power to make me all weepy and gooey. Love that our world is small, my dear friend.

  • Love your convictions for generosity. I have an idea…or two. 🙂 Let’s talk. Say…in Vancouver June 2015? Brandts are swinging by that lovely city.

    • Sounds like a plan!

    • How exciting! I’d love to connect too if possible. 🙂 xox

      • Yes!!! Let’s have afternoon tea together! I’ll PM you when our travel details firm up.

  • Bev Murrill

    Thanks for being a great inspirer of people, a lover who keeps loving no matter what, and a faithful, faithfilled leader… we love you, Idelette… x

    • I so appreciate you, Bev! Happy New Year Down Under! I look forward to connecting with you more closely in 2015. With Love xo

  • Sarah Joslyn

    It has been a FULL year. I loved living it out with you all.

    • I couldn’t imagine it without you. Love you. xo

  • HBurns

    Wow Idelette, this post is magnificent. I adore your heart to always, always push forward for everything that God has put into your in there. You have always been a courageous leader and you continue to show that in how you’ve written these words today. I am honoured to be a part of this group of world-changers and ever grateful for your brave YES to what God planted in your big heart…. because of it, this has been a bountiful, blessed year.

    SO much love and gratitude. xoxo

    • Thank you so much! You are always the BEST cheerleader and speaker of encouragement. So so grateful for you in my life … Love you ridiculously much. xo

  • I echo Siki’s words, “I am drunk with hope.”

    Bring it 2015!!!

  • Also, I love your office. I want to live there.

  • Anne-Marie

    Idelette, amazing! Phew! I love your ability to step back and listen and both go small and paint large. Grateful for you! Personally, I feel God has been calling me more firmly into my own life, BUT also to be change, what my place is in light of the world’s needs; and Chandra’s call sits with me. The need to join with and fellowship with our brothers and sisters who are calling out for us to be there. To show up. But I can so easily scatter my efforts and fatigue. Perhaps this is a prayer for your third leg as well. What are we called to?

    • Thank you, Anne-Marie. I look forward to digesting it further with you, in prayer and otherwise. SO appreciate your grace and your presence. Yes, let’s lean in to what we are called to specifically as a community.

  • Absolutely excellent round-up. What a full year for everyone! And love the three-legged stool. You’re right we need it and we all need it in our lives. I love being part of this community!

    • Thank you, Sarah! It’s such a blessing to write it every year and to see where we’ve been and how God has moved. The nudges and the leaps. A great big adventure. So fun to walk this out with you.

  • Happy to hear about you working on a book, Idelette. Definitely interested in it. Here’s to a wonderful year for SheLoves. Thank you all for your hardwork and dedication. It’s been a blessing to discover this community.

    • Thank you, Ganise! I’ve so appreciated your comments and how you’ve jumped right in. I look forward to connecting more in 2015!

  • Megan Gahan

    I love this. The oh-so-many highlights. The conviction. What a year my friend. So looking forward to turning this post into something tangible and world-changing in this next year. Thanks for the shout-out also 😉 I’m so honored to play a small role in making SheLoves what it is.

    • O, you’re making it so much better, Megan! So appreciate you and your gifts.

  • I remember reading this last year, aching to be a part of She Loves. It just felt so…right and GOOD and holy and I wanted to make my home with you all. And, what a gift the last year had been. My heart swells with gratitude and joy, just thinking of the year ahead. I love this community!

    • I’m so grateful you are here! This community loves you. 🙂

  • So fun to see all of this in one place.
    What a wonderful space this is.

    • Thank you, Cara. Wishing you a wonderful 2015! Looking forward to seeing you right here. xo

  • Erin Wilson

    It almost feels like the large, audacious, giving projects are less a third-leg, and more a means to achieve rich community and an altered perspective. Those projects (particularly, for me, the Keep a Girl in School campaign) were change agents. They increased my capacity for empathy, and deepened my circles as we pressed in together. I have a niggling doubt that SL would have become what it is without those campaigns. Glad to know that’s still on the radar. xo

    • I think you’re right. These projects are what made us who we are … And I missed that. I also know we were tired after 2013 … Pressing in so hard. So, praying and wondering how we move forward into it.