Rest Mama, There’s Enough Time



If there’s one lesson I am constantly learning and re-learning in my life with God, it’s how to rest. Every time I think I’ve got it, I am confronted with another application, another dimension, another depth or angle to which I need to learn to apply the lesson.

When I was in my late twenties, my busy life was interrupted by burnout and I had to learn to stop striving and stop trying to please people. Now that I have two children and life travels at the pace of cheerios and potty breaks, drivenness pops up in sneakier ways.

Last summer, my second daughter was born. However, it wasn’t until a few months ago that I started noticing red flags for postpartum depression. With the encouragement of family and close friends, I called a support line. As I talked to the lady there, it became obvious that I needed more rest. I needed actual uninterrupted sleep, yes. But also smaller breaks throughout the day. I needed to up my level of self-care.

Now you need to know this about me: I have a terribly difficult time accepting that I can take breaks when things are incomplete. My husband can let go and relax a lot more easily than I can. Somehow I think that I can only rest when everything on my list is checked off. It’s as if I need to earn time off or prove that I deserve to stop.

Mark Buchanan, in his refreshing book, The Rest of God, writes, “[Sabbath] is sheer gift. It is a stop-work order in the midst of work that’s never complete, never polished. Sabbath is not the break we’re allotted at the tail end of completing all our tasks and chores, the fulfillment of all our obligations. It’s the rest we take smack-dab in the middle of them, without apology, without guilt, and for no better reason than God told us we could.”

“For no better reason than God told us we could.” Those words are hard for me to accept. It’s a challenge for me to stop in the midst of the daily grind and play or relax instead. It’s even more challenging to suspend the constant go-go-go in my heart.

My spiritual director recently asked me how I would define rest. To me, rest is a state of being fully present and content in the moment. It’s how Jesus seemed to approach his days. I could be doing dishes, nursing my baby or making play dough pizzas, but my inner posture can either be one of rushing, or one of resting.

I notice my internal hurry most acutely when I’m with my children. “Can you play with me, Mama?” my three-year-old asks. “Sure,” I reply. But more often than not, I continue with, “I can play with you for a bit, and then I have to change your sister’s diaper, put the laundry in, wash some dishes and get lunch ready.” I’m learning to catch myself when I’m mentally running ahead; to press pause, and fully engage in that moment with my daughter.

I hurry, too, when I’m rocking my baby, trying to get her to sleep. I want her to sleep sooner so I can get on with my evening. In those moments, I sing. Five full verses of “Amazing Grace.” And again. And again. As I sing, my heart accesses that place of rest. It is grace that has brought us this far, grace that will sustain us. Grace will eventually get us there.

I hurry when I believe in the lie of “not enough.” That I’m not enough, that I haven’t done enough or that there is not enough time. Mark Buchanan also observes, “Most of us live afraid that we’re almost out of time. But you and I, we’re heirs of eternity. We’re not short of days.” This perspective allows me to stop hurrying and grants me permission to fully attend to whatever moment I’m presently in.

It’s only when I center myself in the truth that I am unconditionally loved and Jesus has already accomplished it all that I can receive the gift of rest. The deeper I am drawn into his love, the deeper I enter his rest. For at his heart IS rest.

So these days, I’m learning to fully engage in each moment without rushing onto the next thing. I’m learning to make a cup of tea and drink it while it’s hot. I’m learning to leave some things for tomorrow. I’m learning to pause and actually play.

Because God says I can.


Image credit: Olga Filonenko

Olive Chan
Olive is a friendly introvert and recovering perfectionist. In an ideal day, she would paint, eat chocolate croissants and take lots of naps. But she’s primarily occupied these days with her two lovely little ladies, Alena and Kayla and making sure her husband, Tim, does not have to eat McDonald’s too often. She has co-written two books with Tim and takes breaks from the little people by building websites with their small company, Coracle Marketing. She aspires to be a conduit of grace, rest and beauty in this hurried and chaotic world.
Olive Chan


  1. As a fellow mama who struggles with so many of the same things – thank you so much for this reminder of something that I want and need to learn to live and do. I rarely drink my coffee when it’s still hot, but I am trying to do it now thanks to your inspiration.

  2. pastordt says:

    LOVED THIS. “The deeper I am drawn into his love, the deeper I enter his rest. For at his heart IS rest.” Amen – why do we so easily forget/overlook this powerful truth?? Thanks so much for the reminder, Olive.

  3. “We’re not short of days”. I needed to hear this today. And everyday really. Thank you.

  4. Alaina Mazur says:

    Your words are sacred echos for me today. Thank you Olive. I am so guilty of believing these lies too.

  5. Meresa says:

    Thank you so much for this beautiful reminder of what is our gift from God. I really needed to hear this today. I’ve been struggling with feeling like I’m getting enough done in my life while dealing with some chronic health issues, when what I really need to do is allow myself the blessings of rest. Thank you!

    • Olive Chan olivechan says:

      Oh Meresa, I feel for you. It’s SO hard when your body demands for you to slow down but the rest of you feels the pressure of needing to get things done. Praying that you can accept God’s gift of rest and know that you are completely loved regardless of what you can accomplish. Xo

  6. Kristy says:

    I needed to read this after my first child was born. I’m four kids in at this point and just now understanding the simple truth you wrote about so beautifully.

    • Olive Chan olivechan says:

      I can imagine that the more children one has, the more it’s necessary to be mindful of slowing down. Four kids – amazing. Abounding grace to you, Kristy!

  7. I love this with my whole heart. Thank you. Just thank you.

  8. Leah Kostamo says:

    Amen! Thanks so much for preaching this truth, Olive.

    • Olive Chan olivechan says:

      You’re welcome, Leah. Thanks for reading and taking time to leave a note! Blessings to you.

  9. Man, oh man I needed this today! Thank you!

  10. Claire De Boer cjdeboer says:

    This is so beautiful Olive! And I can relate sooooo much. I too had PPD and I know that my personality of “get things done” didn’t help. I find it hard to build rest into my days but it is so necessary. I’m with you on the journey my friend! Xo

    • Olive Chan olivechan says:

      Thank you, Claire! It’s good to know I’m not alone! So grateful to have you to journey with. Xo

  11. Helen Burns HBurns says:

    I want to applaud you first that you are learning and doing the work to find rest. Well done Mama! And I also want to celebrate this beautiful piece… we ALL need this reminder that ‘God says I can’. Glory xo

    • Olive Chan olivechan says:

      Thank you, Helen! It’s been and continues to be a process of learning and practicing. And yes, isn’t it great that God extends this grace of rest to all of us?!

  12. Oooh, “heirs of eternity.” I’ve never looked at my hurry and worry habits in light of THIS truth before. I’ll join you with that cup of hot tea.

    • Olive Chan olivechan says:

      So freeing, isn’t it? Thanks for joining me with your cup of tea, Michele! I’d say “cheers,” but that doesn’t quite seem appropriate… or maybe it is. 😉


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