God Needs Dangerous Women?

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I’m learning that out of ordinary friendship, the most extraordinary—and potentially dangerous—alliance is possible.

Last year, I spent five days with one such holy alliance: my friend Kelley Nikondeha. We talk almost every day. It’s a friendship in which we sharpen each other, encourage each other and talk a lot about how to live out the ways of Jesus right where we are. We’ve danced in Bujumbura, cried in Portland and dreamed in Vancouver.

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Last year, as my birthday gift, I got to fly to Arizona and spend five days with her and her daughter Emma. We felt the luxury of the gift—uninterrupted time together. I loved seeing the space where she works and the kitchen where she cooks. We surrounded ourselves with books. We nibbled on petit basque and crackers.

By Sunday, we’d already talked about everything and more. There was a quiet, beautiful peace over the morning when Kelley mentioned how she has a favourite sermon she listens to on a regular basis. It’s a sermon by Walter Brueggemann, recorded at Mars Hill church in the days of Rob Bell. I felt like my friend was inviting me to share in something sacred to her. Of course I wanted to listen to it!

In one hour, Brueggemann swept through Isaiah and painted a vision for the New City.

Feet up on the ottoman, Brueggemann streaming through the computer in front of us, we listened intently, wiped tears and scribbled notes.

Then, as Brueggemann preached his final note, we sat in the holy hush. Friends can be quiet together.

Then, slowly, we broke the silence, commenting on what felt powerful. Where was the juice?

This one sentence stood out for me: “God needs dangerous people.”

I see the world through a lens of sisterhood, so I couldn’t help but add: God needs dangerous women!

Whoa.

That set something loose in our hearts and minds. God needs dangerous women? What could that look like? What do dangerous women talk about?

Dangerous Women run half-marathons, build wells and move to Iraq.
Dangerous Women talk about poverty and inequality.
Dangerous Women talk about Palestine. (Hello, The Lemon Tree.)
Dangerous Women talk about their bodies.

We made lists and lists and lists. The ideas kept popping. It was like a fire was sparked in our heart and minds.

Dangerous Women lament.
Dangerous Women pray.
Dangerous Women hope.

I flew home the next day, knowing that Kelley and I had stumbled across something sacred. It felt like something for all of us—this sisterhood.

We prayed to steward it well. We prayed to walk in it beautifully.

When I shared it with our editorial team, the room felt pregnant with possibility. It turns out, there are many of us who want to be Dangerous Women. Some may feel a little uncertain, but there’s a stirring, a longing to go to this deeper, fertile place.

The kind of dangerous we’re talking about here is not the kind that evokes threat or fear.

This kind of dangerous is rooted in Love, not power. Love, not fear. Love, not control.

Sometimes, the most dangerous thing a friend can do is show up. She shows up when the going is tough. She shows up in the thick of depression. She shows up, even if it’s the last thing she wants to do.

Women who live into this kind of Light are Dangerous Women.

Dangerous Women also stand up against abusive power. Dangerous women break the silence and cover shame. Dangerous Women topple empires and ask hard questions that lead to connection, relationship and ultimately freedom.

Dangerous Women believe ridiculous assignments.
Mary, will you birth this Messiah?
Dangerous Women face their deepest fears and step up anyway.
If only I could touch Jesus’ garment, I would be healed.
Dangerous women don’t shy away from the hard conversations.
My friend, is there something you need to tell me about that relationship?

I’ve jumped off a bridge in Taiwan, gotten lost all by myself in Prague and faced AK47 gunfire all around us in a taxi in Bolivia.

Ordinary thinking says these were dangerous times. The more I get to know Jesus and His ways, the more I believe that the most dangerous thing I do, has nothing to do with threat but everything to do with relationship.

In the beginning of SheLoves, I had a vision for the kind of site I believed we would be. I thought I had to look for people who were already writing and speaking and preaching messages of women’s empowerment. I wrote to one such prominent speaker and asked if we could partner with her and share her words on our website. I emailed her, without any prior relationship.

Originally her assistant said yes, but it turned out to be a misunderstanding and they said we could feature a paragraph or two and link back to their site.

It was a large learning curve for me. At the time, I thought I was supposed to put on my big girl boots and ask the biggest and bravest ask. It felt hard, but I was willing.

Then I learned a big lesson. On my face before God late one evening, I was so desperate: Lord, what is your strategy for content then? Where do we need to get stories from?

Ask the people in your world.

It seems so simple, but I didn’t get it before then. I didn’t get that the people who were already in my world were the greatest gifts. They held the most potent possibility.

Jesus knew this. He called 12 ordinary men, spent time with them and changed the world. How dangerous these ordinary alliances can be!

The kind of danger I’m talking about is not danger that intends to hurt, but to heal. It’s not danger that intimidates, but danger that stretches out a hand and sets a prisoner free.

It’s the kind of dangerous living that shifts paradigms, mends hearts and transforms lives.

It’s the danger when a woman begins to recognize her own power.
It’s the danger in a woman who hears the heartbeat of God.
It’s the danger in a woman who hones her voice.

There’s a popular saying that goes around the Internet: “Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor every morning, the devil says, ‘O, crap, she’s up!’”

It makes me smile, because I catch a glimpse of a Dangerous Woman in her. It’s the kind of woman I hope to be.

I want darkness to shudder when Light rises.
I want evil to squirm when kindness and Love stand up.
I want more beautiful Kingdom of God to be breathed and birthed into our world.

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This whole week, Kelley and I will roll out more of these ideas and language around Dangerous Women:

– Tomorrow, Kelley will share why we believe God needs dangerous women.

– On Wednesday, we’ll share a few of the principles we believe are essential to understanding what a Dangerous Woman is, including a video conversation between the two of us.

– On Thursday, I will share the new Dangerous Woman Manifesto. (Yes, I’ve written a new manifesto for this new season.)

– On Friday, Nicole Joshua has written about coming to grips with a Dangerous God.

– On Saturday, Sarah Bessey will share one of the most dangerous things she understands about herself now.

Our fabulous SheLoves contributors will carry it for the rest of the month. As always, some will be writing on the theme; some won’t. We hope you’ll join us for the ride!

MORE DANGEROUS WOMEN: We recently learned that the amazing Lynne Hybels has been paving the way with her work, her heart and her Dangerous Women Creed. Last week, we asked her permission to go ahead with our Dangerous Women initiative over here. She graciously agreed and wrote, “The world definitely needs more Dangerous Women!” We’re so grateful for women like her. Plus: We think this kind of generosity is dangerous. Be sure to check out her beautiful creed.

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SheLovelys, I’d love to hear:

  • What is the most dangerous thing you’ve done?
  • What is the most dangerous thing you do?
  • What do you think it means to be a Dangerous Woman?
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Idelette McVicker
I like soggy cereal and I would like to go to every spot on the map of the earth to meet our world’s women. I dream of a world where no women or girls are for sale. I dream of a world where women and men are partners in doing the work that brings down a new Heaven on earth. My word last year was “roar” and I learned it’s not about my voice rising as much as it is about our collective voices rising in unison to bring down walls of injustice. This year, my own word is “soar.” I have three children and this place–right here, called shelovesmagazine.com–is my fourth baby. I am African, although my skin colour doesn’t tell you that story. I am also a little bit Chinese, because my heart lives there amongst the tall skyscrapers of Taipei and the mountains of Chiufen. Give me sweet chai and I think I’m in heaven. I live in Vancouver, Canada and I pledged my heart to Scott 11 years ago. I believe in kindness and calling out the song in each other’s hearts. I also believe that Love covers–my gaps, my mistakes and the distances between us. I blog at idelette.com and tweet @idelette.
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  • Bev Murrill

    THIS:

    I want darkness to shudder when Light rises
    I want evil to shudder when kindness and Love stand up
    I want more beautiful Kingdom of God to be breathed and birthed into our world.

    Nothing less!

    • You are SUCH a dangerous woman, Bev. LOVE linking arms and hearts with you.

  • Helen

    Thank you for these powerful words. So many pearls to take away and ponder. Really looking forward to the rest of the month!

  • Amelia

    This is written straight to my own thinking right now. I’m looking forward to the rest of the conversation!

  • I can’t sort the words that are going through my mind from reading this. I’ve already emailed an excerpt to dear women in my life who I need to understand the danger we need to hold each other to. I love this. I think the most dangerous thing I do is hope. I hope for our children’s future and I hope for residents in the recovery program we minister too. They have come hopeless and we dare to show them hope is with us. Thank you for this!

    • These girlfriends are holy ground.

      Hope is such a dangerous thing, indeed. I love how you say: “We DARE to show them hope is with us.”

  • Anne-Marie

    Idelette, Love this – that love itself is the dangerous thing and unties the cords that bind, but binds up hearts. Great image – of you and Kelli w/ feet up, listening. And I love that you listen so well. I just bought a tiny journal w the words ‘trust your crazy ideas’ – good crazy here.

    • That is SO true. Love takes us to this next place, in which we have permission to dream and become dangerous. Can’t wait to hear what will come from that journal, Anne-Marie. 🙂

  • Erin Wilson

    Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes!

    • You. Always. I adore you, friend.

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  • Love this idea – I’m already thinking of so many applications and examples of this. Dangerous women are the way forward.
    (Incidentally – would make a brilliant slogan T-shirt…)

    • Woohoo! Would love to hear more of your thoughts, Tanya!

  • Daniela

    Yes, yes, yes and amen!!! Gosh I love you. I feel provoked and stirred. That can be dangerous!

    • O, we *know* this is dangerous!!!!! #squeal I’ll stay tuned. 🙂

  • rachel blazer

    looking forward to more on this topic! right now, my dangerous is continuing to move forward with ideas and desires through sickness and opposition. sometimes God wants something to happen and He hasn’t told everyone yet- He just wants us to keep going!

    • Thank you for being here, Rachel! Kelley’s post today talks about the yeast being hidden … May good and nourishing things rise from this season. May you stand strong and courageous, friend.

  • Belinda Bauman

    Lynne Hybels has completly changed my perspective on the humility required when one choses the dangerous way. Dangerous and wreckless are two different things, and have nothing to do with each other. Our life as women becomes dangerous– tear welcoming, fear resisting, war zone walking dangerous– caring to the core dangerous– when we do justly (yes), love mercy (yes)– and learn to walk humbly with our God. Lynne is a beautiful example of this. Thank you SheLoves for this– and for shining a light on one who is role model worthy.

    • What a woman. I agree! The more I read her Creed, the more I think, she has paved the way for us to rise … Thank you for reading, Belinda!

  • Nicole A. Joshua

    What a post to kick off this month’s theme. Idelette, there is so much prophetic imagination in this post. Thank you. Thank you for listening for, and responding to, God’s heart. May your words inspire generations of women to be dangerous and change the world!

    • Thank you for linking arms across the oceans, my friend. I couldn’t stand in this without you.

  • Jennifer Sims Wells

    I love this! The most dangerous thing I’m doing right now is trusting God’s heart for me as I wrestle with Him, with truth, and with where I am. There was a time where I would have been afraid to even express myself to the God of the universe, and now I feel like I can come with my doubts and my questions and my discontent and be loved and heard and seen throughout. I’m grateful for powerful dangerous women who lead the way and who teach me how to walk in step with my Father.

    • O, Jennifer, YES! That is holy wrestling … I pray you find the blessing on the other side of the blessing. That you won’t give up until you receive that very blessing … It IS dangerous to know you can come to God with your doubts and your questions. So grateful for your honesty here.

  • V

    The most dangerous thing that I do is dare to have hope as a teacher of inner city students in Los Angeles. I am only 23. I don’t always know what I’m doing, but I am willing to show them my heart, to give them my heart, and pour every ounce of love that I have into them. We hope dangerously in my classroom. We dream dangerously in my classroom. We discuss justice and justice dangerously in my classroom. We push the boundaries and ask difficult questions, and I am always bowed low. To God be the glory.

    • Saskia Wishart

      I love this, I was only 19 when I started working with women in the sex industry…. I didn’t know what I was getting into, but yes to being young and still dangerous enough to step into hard places.

      • Love that, Saskia!

      • Bev Murrill

        SAskia, you are SUCH a fantastic role model… Kudos.

  • Love this! “Ridiculous assignments…” has me giggling. The message has me cheering.

  • Christine

    Last year my word was “courage,” and I started teaching English as a second language to refugees resettling in my city. When I thought of refugees, I thought of women for some reason, but as it turned out, I mostly taught Muslim men from Iraq and Africa. I was able to share Christ with many of them, take some of them to church, and get to know some women also that started coming this winter. It has been one of the greatest adventures I’ve ever been on. Many of my friends have told me their husbands would never have let them do it, so I am thankful for a supportive husband who wants to see me flourish, even if it means doing what others may call “dangerous.” 🙂

    • That sounds like a marvellous adventure. Human to human. Showing Love. You are living dangerously and beautifully, Christine. Thank you for sharing!

  • cjdeboer

    “It’s the danger when a woman begins to recognize her own power.
    It’s the danger in a woman who hears the heartbeat of God.
    It’s the danger in a woman who hones her voice.”

    YES! I’m so excited about this and I want to BE a dangerous woman! xo

    • Love you, my friend. I’m thankful to walk with you.

  • My first response is that “dangerous” is going to look very different on all of us, and maybe the most difficult thing of all will be honoring the dangerous assignments tackled by our sisters in Christ; praying for one another in our individual “ridiculous assignments” and “fear facing” expeditions. Looking forward to hearing more about this!

    • Michele, I love what you highlighted: honouring our sisters in their dangerous assignments …

  • Saskia Wishart

    Oh Idelette. Thank you for your powerful voice steering us into new and deeper waters.

    • Together we go, sis! Sending you lots of love today.

  • jenn

    “The more I get to know Jesus and His ways, the more I believe that the most dangerous thing I do, has nothing to do with threat but everything to do with relationship.” Truer words have never been written. Thank you for these incredible and powerful words!

    • Thank you so much, Jenn! Kindly, xoxo

  • You know I love this, Idelette. Something about your words today reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from Brene Brown, “Don’t puff up, don’t shrink back, just stand your sacred ground.” It’s the idea that the most powerful thing we can do is also the most vulnerable – without making ourselves small, or without inflating ourselves, just standing in the place we KNOW we’re supposed to be. That’s the most dangerous thing I can think of – to discover that sacred ground in my life, and stand on it in faith and trust that God is going to use it. Saying prayers for the SheLoves community – that we, individually and collectively, can uncover the sacred ground we’re supposed to stand on, and own it. <3

    • That is the perfect quote, Bethany. Right here. You get it so beautifully. I’m praying that prayer with you.

  • Lisha Epperson

    “Friends can be quiet together.” I’m recharged by silence. Its the danger of the quiet space that I soak up. Certainly alone, but sitting in the powerful silent presence of a friend refuels and inspires me. After all the words are laid out between us like the million pieces of a puzzle – silence seeps in to put it all together. I see the big picture. Grateful for your words today Idelette. And this topic? Golden.

    • “It’s the danger of the quiet space that I soak up.” Ooh, dangerous space, indeed. I find the same, Lisha. I need a LOT of quiet. I have to fight for it these days, but all the more I’m recognizing how important that is.

  • This is GOOD news. This is glory. I am stirred and I am with you!

    • I love that this is GOOD NEWS, right?!!!!

  • Amy Hunt

    “. . . recognize [MY] own power . . . hears the heartbeat of God . . . hone [MY] voice.” Simply, this. Amen.

    • Thank you, Amy. So appreciate you.

  • C

    I just got back from the syrian iraqi border on Friday after working in a refugee camp trying to bring Jesus into one of the darkest situations I could think of. I am young (20) and with very few talents but it’s amazing what G-d can do when we simply say yes and amen to whatever and wherever he leads us into

    • C

      Nothing will have seemed too much to have done or suffered when in the end we see Him and the marks of His wounds : nothing will ever seem enough.

      • Erin Wilson

        Thanks for being a light-bearer here, C!

    • O, C … ! Thank you for giving your life and your Love in this very tangible way. What God can do with that YES … My goodness, yes! I’m learning that too.

  • Krysten

    This week I chose to forgive my husband when I found out he had been viewing pornography and had been involved in an emotional affair/inappropriate relationship with a woman at his office. He was broken and repentant and undone under the weight of his own sin. Even though there was no physical affair, the betrayal stings the same. God’s great love for me (and for my husband) helped me decide to stay and fight for my marriage even though I am desperately wounded at the moment. That probably doesn’t seem too dangerous compared to many stories shared here, but in this unfamiliar space where I now live with this pain, it feels very dangerous to put my heart out there and learn to love him through this mess.

    • Lori Hopkins

      This is intensely brave. Go forward, dear sister. Many women have found great reward through this path.

    • Dangerous women certainly forgive … This is a hard road to walk, Krysten, and there’s beautiful possibility for Kingdom to break through in this pain. (As long as there isn’t abuse involved, friend.) I pray you find wise counsel to help guide and lead you through this.

    • That is absolutely powerful, Krysten. My sincere prayers for healing are with you.

    • Jen

      Thank you for sharing this. I’ve recently been through the same thing. Showing my husband the love of Christ feels like the hardest thing I have ever done in the midst of the pain…And I struggle with feeling like I have no one to talk to about it because I don’t want to change other people’s perception of my husband. I want my husband and others to see him the way Christ does. At first I just had faith that radical dangerous love would change him. Now I am not only seeing it change him but change me too.

      • Krysten

        Jen, I’m so sorry you are going through this as well. I am praying for you and hope that you cling to God’s truth and the good moments as I am struggling every day to do. I am blessed to have s supportive group of friends who are loving us both through this, and I know it must be even harder feeling like you have no one to talk to. Praying peace over you and restoration in your family.

  • Willow Weston

    Idelette! Sarah Burda introduced us but this is the first writing of yours that I have read! I love your way with words…the way you shape and draw us in toward something greater and bigger..toward what we all want! I find I live dangerously when I am tapped into Christ’s power and am believing it be true: HIs power is made perfect in my weakness. So even then and always, He can use me to do very dangerous things, not just for the sake of danger, but for the sake of lives.

    Blessings!

    Willow

    • Thanks for reading, Willow!

      Absolutely … Have a peek at Anne-Marie’s post from Saturday too. There’s such strength, standing in our weakness/vulnerable + honest selves.

  • Lori Hopkins

    I am a dangerous woman. I am called, and it matters not what the male leaders of my church say. I am called, and I will answer my calling.

  • Heather R. Nelson ツ

    I would love to hear the entire lesson by Walter but the link cuts out after a few minutes. Can you post another link or let me know how to get a new link? Thank you!

    • O, no! Ok … I’m having some issues copying the audio file link. FYI: It downloads immediately as an audio file, so you can likely find it in your “downloads” or iTunes player. You can also find it on Brueggemann’s website here: http://www.walterbrueggemann.com/resources/audio/

      It’s called: Isaiah and the Mission of the Church from July 2008

  • My baby is ’bout to jump out of my belly and through the computer screen. I LOVE THIS! Dangerous women overcome, serve, WRITE, lead, believe, share, speak, risk – dare I say more. This is a movement empowering the Dangerous Women to rise up and be counted in our respective spheres of influence. May I be found faithful in my home, in the classroom, in cyberspace, and as I live out every day dangerously. Thank you Idelette for this powerful post. I will be coming back for more!

    • Wonderful, Kia! I love that! I hear the stirring and the longing … Woohoo!

  • Leah Kostamo

    Wahoo! Sound the trumpets, Idelette!

    • Woohoo! I treasure you, Leah. Thank you that we get to walk together.

  • This is SO SO so good. Thank you for posting this. In the midst of a trying season, this stirs my faith and inspires me to press on. Thank you.

  • What an incredible (humbling) response!!!!

    I’m misty-eyed friend.

    YES. YES. YES.

    Love doing dangerous things *with* you!

    xoxo

    • I know … right? SO grateful that you are a holy alliance, my friend.

  • jen

    Thank you for this Holy spirit filled message. My name is Jennie Noriega I’m from Albuquerque and have lived many places but it was here on March 6th 2005 that God called me and I surrenderd all. March 6th will be here in just a few days and I will have been saved 10 years. The very next day I will turn 40 years old. My where has the time gone? When I came to know Christ I was a mess. I was abandoned, abused, forgotten, and a drug addict for 19 years. I walked into a church after being up for 3 days on a crack cocaine binge. I don’t remember the songs sang, or the sermon that was preached, but I do remember this dear saint walk up to me after the service was over, and asked how she could pray with me. As the world had forgotten me, I only have one request. Would you please not forget about me! That was in January of 2005 in March I was arrested after being up for days using drugs I was bonded out on March 6th and called this lady who had been praying for me. And she came to my apartment in the ghetto, I’m sure when she and her husband walked in the demons must have fleed. We didn’t have much in my apartment because I sold it all. But I remember dropping to my knees and she lead me in prayer and I begin to confess all of my sins to Christ Jesus. I cried in agony for God to please change me. I was save that day march 6th 2005 I stood up from the floor and was delivered from a 19 year drug addiction. Today I go back into the ghettos and give the gospel that set me free. I work with women who have been abused abandoned and have turned to drugs and alcohol. I walk the streets in the ghettos and minister to pimps, prostitutes, homeless, and the like. The joy I have in serving Christ is an honor and privilege that he chose me. I am forever grateful for his kindness, His grace, His mercy, and his forgiveness. Being a dangerous woman is taking risks for my deliver listening to his still small voice and obeying it with all my heart mind and soul. I have been sent too many places where my faith has been tested. But through it all, God never let me down and today I will continue to be a dangerous woman in love with Christ Jesus in hope of teaching others to have radical faith because of who Christ is. The power of love that we Christians possess is lethal and can change the hardest of hearts. Like Paul said “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners in which I am the worst of them but I received mercy for this reason, so that in me, the worst of them, Christ Jesus might demonstrate his extraordinary patience as an example to those who would believe in Him for eternal life” 1Timothy 1: 15 I am a dangerous woman for Jesus Christ who has died for my sins and was raised on the third day in hope of me coming to know him. I will spread this message until the very last breath my existence. Win some by all means necessary! Thank you!

    • Jennie, what a fantastic, humbling, powerful story you have … ! Thank you for sharing your story and some of your journey. How grateful I am that you walked into that church; how grateful I am that the woman came to your apartment that day. How grateful I am that she showed you that God had not forgotten you … I am humbled and honoured to hear how you have LOVED and served and poured out your life from then on.

      You are a dangerous woman, indeed.

      Blessings upon blessings … and much LOVE, sis.

    • Fran Nicholls

      What an inspiration you are to all. You are God’s blessing to all the lives you touch and minister too. He will continue to use and Bless you . Jesus Loves You! Blessings my friend! You are a Dangerous Woman!

  • Tim

    Brueggemann used an unfortunate word choice there. God doesn’t need anyone, dangerous women or others. He loves dangerous women and others, of course, and all are welcome in his family doing the work of Christ’s kingdom. But “need”? No, that’s just not sound doctrine.

    • You’re right. God doesn’t *need* us, but invites us in to participate in God’s work. Thank you, Tim.

      • Tim

        That’s a wonderful way to put it, Idelette. Sound and succinct.

  • Lauren Ward

    This post is completely beautiful and so inspiring! Love this: “Dangerous Women topple empires and ask hard questions that lead to connection, relationship and ultimately freedom”.

  • Jamie

    God doesn’t NEED dangerous men or women. If God needed me or my fiancé to help Him or complete Him, then He would not be Sovereign/All-Powerful. And thus, not worthy of our worship. Let us be careful when talking about what God “needs.” I DO agree that Christ followers (men and women) need to lay their lives at the foot of the Cross and be willing to do WHATEVER God calls them to.

    • You’re absolutely right. God doesn’t *need* us to do God’s work … But God invites us to participate in God’s work. Thank you for reading, Jamie!

  • Cathie Ostapchuk

    If I don’t respond to you my heart will burst. Your latest post from SheLoves on being dangerous: especially these words:

    It’s the kind of dangerous living that shifts paradigms, mends hearts and transforms lives.

    It’s the danger when a woman begins to recognize her own power.
    It’s the danger in a woman who hears the heartbeat of God.
    It’s the danger in a woman who hones her voice.

    All I ever seem to talk about, (in my own mind I am shouting) about is to that you can’t begin paradigm shifts until you change the way you think and you can’t change the way you think until you are willing to bust they myths that have wrapped themselves around you like barnacles and – one by one – you face them head on and send them to their death.

    Do I want to be Dangerous? Absolutely? Do I think I am Dangerous? Not so much. Because the beginning of your piece talked about women in sometimes scary places on the globe doing scary things and making scary differences. Yes I have taught women in Ghana – several times. Yes I have had defining moments in leadership with people in power and had to make choices not to default on myself. Several times. What saves your piece for me and makes me know that I can share it with the world is the words above that can ring true NO MATTER THE CONTEXT.

    We are context-driven. We think we can only find our purpose in our context. What is my next job? Where am I going to service? When will I have a title on the door? How many followers will there be on my Instagram account?

    no, no, no. I have been most Dangerous when I have wrestled through the hard days in my marriage of 30 years and chosen to do another day despite all that would tell me I can’t. I have been dangerous when I have woken up Depressed one more day (postpartum or from burnout) and still gone and served the widows lunch. I have been Dangerous on the days I have not hurt anyone with my words despite the Other Voice prodding me on to lash out my discontent on those closest to me. I have been Dangerous on the days when I have chosen to love Fiercely those who only want my demise – and usually within the church. I have been Dangerous on the days when I know the world doesn’t seem to want what I have to offer because I take too much space with my Futuristic strength but I take the space anyway because I cannot forfeit living my top value of Stewardship and must show up and give out, despite the small spaces offered me. I have been Dangerous on the days I have started with my face on the ground because I Can’t until He tells me He Can. I have been Dangerous on the days when I have set my face like flint and not looked left nor right because the VIsion lies ahead and not behind or beside and that is where I must focus, even though everyone around me wants to pull me back where it is safe and they can understand me. I have been most dangerous on the days when I have been misunderstood by seemingly the entire world and yet Clear in my call. I have been most Dangerous on the days when I have chosen not to see others as male or female, black or white, rich or poor, slave or free – but all as Image Bearers and worthy of a Dignified presence. I have been most Dangerous on the days when I have pleaded again with God to bring my prodigals back to the fold and He doesn’t answer and I still choose to trust Him for another 24 hours of not answering that prayer…yet. I have been most Dangerous on the days …. where I live another day. Period. Because The Other Voice wants to destroy me, punch me in the gut, imprison me in the dark. Even in middle-class suburbia. He wants to do that.

    So I don’t need to be on a missions trip or at the homeless shelter or in the prison to be Dangerous. I am Dangerous because I am fully alive in my own skin and owning it. No one is giving me my life, I am taking what belongs to me, because He already gave all for me to have it and I have more than I need. That is what makes me Dangerous, girlfriend. I am Alive! Not some Undead Undangerous woman living on the fringe of her life as a spectator and wondering when someone will come and save her. No one’s coming. He already came. My Dangerous Assignment is to get the word out that He is Here. He is the One who gives the power to the woman that she must recognize is within her as a birthright gift as an Image Bearer. He is the One whose heartbeat beats inside of her. He is the One who gives her Voice at birth and helps her rediscover it again after she loses it somewhere along the way and no longer recognizes the sound of it. He makes her Dangerous. He has made me Dangerous. No. Matter. Where. Or When. It’s all inside and I take that Dangerous presence into all my spaces. Who can lose carrying the Resurrected Christ in us – the Dangerous One who faced Death head on. And Won. I win. You win. Only with this kind of Dangerous.

  • Marie

    I think one of the most dangerous things I do is hang out with “non-Christians”. I mingle with the hurt, the addicts, the misunderstood and I’ve found God’s love, grace and mercy in the midst of their darkness. They want to be loved and understood. Of course, this has distanced me from some brothers and sisters in Christ who believe this is dangerous. I can see why they believe this is dangerous but I refuse to leave the individuals I know God has placed in my life to love. It’s dangerous to be complacent and I am so glad God has given me a heart for the “dangerous” but when a woman knows and is aware of her purpose and duty NOTHING will hinder her. Especially with God by her side.

    • Fran Nicholls

      Jesus too was around “non-Christians” and Made a difference in the world. You are protected by the “Blood of Jesus ” and will also make a difference in the lives which you touch. Go forth in the name of Jesus my friend!

  • Oh crap, she’s up.

    Haha, love it. I am sobered because dangerous women really do stand in the line of fire, vulnerable to pain. We need to hold each other up!

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  • Love this, Idelette! You are one of the most dangerous women I know and I am honored to call you friend and grateful for the ways you’ve inspired me. I can’t wait to see how this call affects the SheLoves community and the world beyond us.

  • Sandhya Rajan

    Dear Idellete…. This could not have at a more perfect time…. A toast to the dangerous women we know…. Its the season where at 35 i’m having that hard conversation with myself of hurt, anger, sadness which I didn’t know I had held onto and most of all that I may be angry with God too… learning to deal and let go and channel those emotions and be brave enough to lead with heart to live a life with purpose and giving and have that conversation with God and let the tears flow…. and to walk among hand in hand with dangerous women…
    Love
    Sandhya

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  • Sandy Hay

    “It’s the danger when a woman begins to recognize her own power.It’s the danger in a woman who hears the heartbeat of God.
    It’s the danger in a woman who hones her voice.” You’ve just radically changed the definition of danger for most of us. Danger for me started over a year ago when I started to follow sheloves. Then I prayed with you and chatted with you. Danger right now is saying YES to writing a book review blog for my church’s women’s website. (Danger is not listening to the voice that says I’m not a writer.) Danger will be introducing books I’ve read with you to women who are clueless to what God has besides “safe”.

  • Jessica

    I am a Student in Art college and we have been just assigned to do our last project for our final year exhibition. I have chosen to do it on the injustice of modern day sex slavery. These last 6 months I feel God had put this on my heart and this passion has led me to look at working next year in this field. So when this opportunity came up to raise awareness of this injustice in my college and to the people coming to the exhibition I took it. I don’t know if this would be counted as a dangerous decision but everyday I go in to approach this as my theme I pray daily that God will strengthen me not to lose hope. Also that at the end of it, God will be glorified because the last thing I want to get out of it is just to be seen as a ‘good’ person. I have found its already raised questions about my identity with my peers. I am learning to trust in God. I want to show love to these people, I want to attempt to be a voice to the precious lives trapped in the horror of sex slavery. I am fearful sometimes to ensure I be sensitive about this, I also don’t want it to put so much fear into me that I don’t stand up against it because that would be what the devil wants from me. I pray God uses me not just in this season of my life but throughout the rest of my life, to get a step closer to seeing this injustice eradicated.
    I was very encouraged by this article, empowering women to be fearless to love is so powerful.

  • pastordt

    LOVE this -wish I’d had it to read before writing for this month. Hmmm…maybe I’ll re-think!

  • Thank you, I needed this.

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  • I published a 3 part series on leaving a church we loved (primarily) over the issue of women not being allowed in leadership. I know it is a story many can relate to, but being vocal about it, being vulnerable? That is dangerous. We need more voices! In the words of Sarah Bessey, “We need you: your voice rising, your hands working. You matter in this story.” Please come out into the arena of daring greatly (Brene Brown). We do, indeed, need more dangerous women.
    http://www.kristinprentissott.com/our-church-break-up-part-iii-wholeheartedness-with-crowder-and-needtobreathe/

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