The Gift I Didn’t Ask For


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I didn’t know how much I would miss the “feeling” I have come to associate with Christmas. It starts when the air turns crisp and the leaves crackle under your feet. It’s this intangible excitement that comes along with the lights and the parties, the stories to be read and cookies to be baked. It’s this atmosphere of anticipation when people say, “It feels like Christmas.” 

There are no lights this year around town nor any signs of the season. We have moved to a country where Christmas isn’t celebrated in the same way. It’s celebrated under brightly colored canopies hung in the courtyards of the few churches that meet together, in advent candles and carols sung. It’s celebrated quietly in homes where the few Christ followers meet. As I’ve been dreaming of a white Christmas (as I longingly looked at pictures of snow from friends online, in awe because we rarely get snow this early in the year in my deep south American hometown), I’ve been given something of a gift. I’ve been given a small Christmas.

It doesn’t feel much like a gift at first. The ache for the familiar felt like it had a vice grip on my heart as others said, “Oh you’re so lucky you are escaping the commercialism that has taken over Christmas and advent.” Maybe that’s true but is it wrong to just want a peppermint mocha and some pumpkin pie to get me into the spirit? And don’t get me started on the mental hoops I jumped through explaining how Santa would still visit even though most people in our country don’t celebrate Christmas at all. I felt like I was missing something vital to give my small children in this place.

So, I don’t know who was more excited when we saw it, the kids or me. We turned a corner in the mall and there it was, a shiny beacon of all things Christmas. There were Christmas trees and ornaments, twinkling lights. I don’t know how one tiny store in the massive shopping center caught onto the holiday but I’m grateful it did. We returned home with a tiny tree in tow, sparse but ours. A little piece of magic, a place to sit and read the story of Jesus’ birth on Christmas morning. A little piece of home.

I hoped it felt to them like Christmas morning opening the little box that made it 8000 miles and packed away in a suitcase for months. A couple small manger scenes and ornaments emerged, some coloring pages for the kids. My husband commented that we didn’t have a tree topper and I ran to my son’s backpack. He had just decorated a paper star for his international school’s Christmas program. I taped it to the top of the tree, it’s blue glitter glinting in the lights. One tiny corner of our flat looked like Christmas had arrived. I wondered if the kids felt sad that there wasn’t more as I whispered a prayer of thanks for this much.

A few minutes later my daughter sauntered in with an excited look on her face that tells me, “I have an idea.” She laid out her detailed plan for secret Santa where each of us would draw a name and we’d buy a present for the person whose name we’d drawn. She had our names already written on little scraps of paper. When I returned to the living room to clean up after tucking them in, I found another paper she’d been working on. I sunk to the floor as I read, “Things I might get my parents for Christmas” and on the list were items like “No complaining” and “Help around the house.”

I felt like the grinch in that moment, who needed a little child to remind him that Christmas doesn’t come in packages, boxes, or bags. It had come and I hadn’t noticed it. So like the stubborn child I tend to be, I am taking the gift I didn’t ask for but needed all along. I’m taking the time to slow down and redefine what it feels like to anticipate the coming of a Savior, what it looks like to wait for Him to come in unexpected ways.

Nicole T Walters
I love to experience and to write about this messy, noisy, beautiful world and cultures not my own. Though my family’s roots run deep in the soil of the Southern United States I, along with my husband and our two little ones, am learning to love hot milk tea instead of sweet iced tea as we make our home in South Asia. I hope to help others create space to hear God’s voice in all the noise of life as I write about faith from a global perspective at A Voice in the Noise {}. I have authored essays in several books and my writing has appeared in places live CT Women, Relevant, and Ruminate. I am a regular contributor at here at SheLove, The Mudroom, and READY Publication and am a member of the Redbud Writers Guild.
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  1. Thank you for this gift, Nicole. Thank you for inviting us into your world and your heart. May you have a beautiful Christmas around that little tree. I think you already do. Your words blessed me so much today.

  2. This will be my first Christmas in the US since 2009, living mostly in countries that did not celebrate or know it was Christmas. It sounds cliche, but I do already miss my small, simple, sincere Christmas’ with expat friends who had become family. Any transition is hard, and I’m so happy to read how you’ve found Christmas in your new home. Peace be with you and your little ones this Christmas.

  3. Stacey Pardoe says:

    Nicole, thanks for reminding us that no matter where we are, the most important part of Christmas remains a pertinent reality. No matter where we are, there’s a sense of pressure to meet unspoken expectations about gifts and decorations and creating some sense of ambiance. May we walk in the freedom of release from these expectations! Thanks for the reminder! I pray blessing over your Christmas away from home. May you sense the Lord’s pleasure as you serve him with the sacrifice of the familiar!

  4. You were in my mind recently as I sat in a drafty New England church and tapped my foot to the crazy rhythms of my son’s jazz band playing Feliz Navidad. God used that moment to remind me that so many of my friends celebrate Christmas in warm climates, with non-traditional foods, far away from the nearest evergreen tree. And some have done it by choice: pulled up roots, and embraced the unfamiliar because they are convinced that the truth we celebrate on December 25 is worth any inconvenience. Thank you for providing an insider’s view on that choice for those of us who love and pray for you.
    Merry Christmas to you and your family of Santas.

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