I’m Standing With the Ones Who Wait


Sallie Burroughs -The Ones Who Wait3by Sallie Burroughs | Instagram: @salliekae

Babies, it seems, are everywhere. I wish I could tell you that I am 100% happy and content in this current season with both of our careers, surrounded by family, and enjoying our freedom and independence. I wish I could tell you I didn’t want kids just yet. But I can’t.

When my husband and I first moved back to the States after living in Venezuela I knew it was not the right time to have a baby. We needed to get settled, to find work, to take care of a thousand other things. I knew it wasn’t the right time, but oh how I wanted a baby. I spent many a weepy evening crying.

One night over dinner I finally talked to my husband about my frustration with waiting to move into this next step in our family life. I had a long list of things that needed to be settled before we could start thinking about kids and Brandon surprised me by asking, “Why do we have to wait X amount of time? Says who?”

He reminded me that while we had plans, sure, we could also change those plans. I was delighted thinking that the waiting was finally over. But it seems that God’s plans are a little different than mine. There is still no baby in sight. I have no idea when it will happen or if it will happen. You can’t will yourself pregnant.

If I’m honest, each day is a struggle to believe that having a baby is even possible. It’s hard to trust and have faith and to reconcile this desire and God’s goodness with God’s silence in the waiting. Each day I have to choose not to be frustrated or give up hope when the road is dark and bumpy and it’s not what I wanted at all.

I have this dream to be a mother and right now I can’t live it out. Maybe that’s your story too? Maybe there’s something else that’s good and life-changing that you’re waiting for and the road is taking much longer than you ever imagined. I know the struggle. I know the sadness and the moments of panic and wondering, “Will this be forever?”

I do not know the future. I do not know what will happen in the next week, month, year, or years for you or for me. However, as I have spent day after day, month after month in the kind of desperate prayer I do know one thing: Your story is your own.

While it may appear that everyone else in the world is getting married and having babies and doing this and that, that is not actually the case. I have never met two people who have had the same timeline of events in their lives. And I’m willing to bet you that you haven’t, either.

One of the most dangerous pits we can fall into is thinking that, “Everyone else gets to have this but not me. God has forgotten me.”  I promise you this: God has not forgotten you. As I’m in the middle of this season of waiting and wanting, I would give anything to fast-forward to the part where I get what I want. But I know I need to trust, and thank God for working on it, and be open to what God might have in store. God has made everything beautiful in its time.

I have to hold on to that truth or else I keep falling back into that pit of despair and doubt and self-pity where I’m stuck, unproductive and truthfully, a kill-joy. In the waiting, I have to remember that God is well aware of what is going on. I need to stop focusing on my plans and instead pray a simple prayer, “But in the meantime Lord, what?”

It’s not wrong to dream. I believe that God wants good things for me, and for you too. Wherever you are right now, whatever dream you might be hoping and waiting for, you are not alone. I can promise you this: there is beauty in the way that is unfolding, not shame, not regret, beauty.


unnamed-3Sallie Burroughs is a twenty-something wife and teacher residing in Southern California. For the past two years Sallie and her husband taught at an International school in Caracas, Venezuela. They recently moved back to the States and are adjusting back to life, jobs, and the busyness of relocation and transitioning. She loves to write about the essence of everyday life, the transition after international living, and the beauty, and sometimes chaos, of living, loving, and doing. She blogs at https://everydayessence.wordpress.com/




  1. My husband and I are recently back in the US after several years overseas. We are transitioning and getting much needed rest and we’ve decided it’s best to wait a bit longer to start trying. It is the right thing. But it doesn’t stop me from feeling pangs of jealousy out of nowhere when I see a pregnant woman, or crying buckets over every birth story I read. And we’re not even trying yet! These are good, thoughtful, encouraging words. Thank you!

    • Sallie Burroughs says:

      YES! I resonate with the feelings and emotions you feel! Transition is a real thing. I appreciate your comment and wait with you in this season and hope that you and your husband get that much needed rest!

  2. There’s a misconception among believers that we can be and do whatever we set our minds to by sheer force of will. So much about parenting — becoming a parent, mothering those little people, then mothering those BIG people — it sent me back to the beginning to re-learn who God is and to lean into the truth that He is sovereign and He is good even when I am absolutely stymied by His ways and when He does not give me what I want.

    • Sallie Burroughs says:

      Yes, and amen. We serve a God who is in control and is good. While that is extremely comforting, in the times of waiting it is good to remember who He is when we can’t control the outcomes. Thank you for your comment!

  3. I feel like the moment we decided to try to become parents, I learned some big lessons about letting go of control. Almost 5 years in, I’m still learning big lessons about control. 😉 I love how you connected this time of waiting to Life. So much of life is about sitting in the meantime. Thanks for this reminder!

    • Sallie Burroughs says:

      Thank you so much for the comment! I believe there is so much learning to happen in the future about letting go of control, and we are reminded of that no matter what season we are in.

  4. Tammie Raymora Thomas says:

    I so remember this period. My 4th baby I knew I was going to have another when her sister was 6 months old. This baby took 4 years. I wanted her so much. I knew she was coming, but the sway in hope and the challenger to have the faith pulled at me, but in others way made me stronger in my faith.
    Now, 14 years after she came I am at the other end of the finding my place in the world outside of my family. Figuring out what that looks like. And that journey with it’s challenges and having faith it will be figure out. The acceptance of where it may go.

    Thanks, for your post reminding me of a beautiful memory. Reminding me that time travels it’s own course’ but it’s the moments in between that we find our faith and transformation.

    • Sallie Burroughs says:

      Wow! Thank you for sharing! Regardless of where we are in that season, it is real and it is a constant opportunity to trust in God and our identity in Him and not in our own doubts and who we say we are.


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