When Love Is An Ocean

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Fiona Koefoed-Jespersen-Love is An Ocean3

You call me out upon the waters
The great unknown where feet may fail
And there I find You in the mystery
In oceans deep
My faith will stand
Oceans, by Hillsong

I sat on the wooden floor of the church meeting room, surrounded by the gentle chattering of my colleagues on the course and looked at the blank piece of paper in front of me. We were meant to be creating a symbol to represent this past year of formation in Spiritual Direction. Everyone else was busy drawing, writing, cutting and sticking. I wasn’t sure where to begin.

I flicked through the magazine in front of me and stopped on a picture of a beautiful seaside view, maybe somewhere in Italy or Greece. The water was a dazzling sparkling blue and drew me in.

I thought back to my appraisal session with my tutor. I’d started telling her I felt disappointed with my performance that year. I’m normally the one who does all the extra credit. I read all the books, I go above and beyond what is expected. It’s for the enjoyment of it, yes, but it’s also my way of controlling the outcome. This is how I make sure I don’t look silly or (God forbid) ignorant.

Instead, this year I have skated through on the bare minimum. Scratched words in my journal on the train on the way home to my sleeping family, a tiny handful of books read in small snatches during nap times in between hanging up the next load of laundry and making sure I’d remembered to pay the council tax bill. I’ve felt stretched thin this year, trying to keep up with this course with two young children and a house move on top of that.

I was disappointed, I told my tutor. And yet, as we reflected further together, all I could remember was the stream of illuminating experiences and learning and aha moments. I thought this would be like everything else–I get out only what I put in. God instead surprised me, again, with abundance. I came with a few loaves and fishes; God laid out a feast for me. I had just a cup of water, but God made it an ocean.

And so an ocean was what I created. I tore out all the images of water I could find and layered them over and over each other until my page was filled up with blue.

I cut out a seagull and stuck it down on a whim, and suddenly. I saw it–the Spirit hovering over these waters I’d gathered. It’s how the story of Genesis begins, the Spirit moving over the dark waters in a formless world–brooding, the Message puts it. Something is being formed beneath the waters. This is the moment of pausing before creation begins, before something new is birthed out of nothing.

I brought everything I had this year, and it didn’t feel like much. And yet, God multiplies and creates a surging waterfall where there were only drops, a torrent of small moments when I glimpsed the divine, when the veil over my eyes was pulled back and I understood a tiny bit more just how vast the mystery of God is.

And now the waters have stilled and the Spirit is hovering, brooding. Some days it feels like I have been waiting for far too long, searching and seeking and not ever quite finding what I was looking for. I still have two years left of this course, along with a house to renovate and two small children to keep vaguely healthy and happy. But I feel myself being reborn, day by, sometimes, excruciating day.

This birthing might take a lifetime, but there is an ocean of grace to sustain me and the Spirit again calls her invitation to be part of the process, to submit to the rolling of the waves and let the waters of birth make me new.

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Fiona Koefoed-Jespersen
Fiona lives in London with her Danish husband and her two young children. She is determinedly seeking the sacred in the ordinary, learning to see that even the most mundane moments of her day can be spiritual if she wakes up to the Divine in those places. She is in training to become a Spiritual Director, and baking is her favourite spiritual practice. You can follow her through her blog at fionalynne.com.
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  • Beautiful 💛

  • I love that the Spirit does the work and invites us to join in, to be “part of the process.” If I could hold onto that image, I would be more daring!

    • Yes! That participation is an incredible gift, and so liberating when we realise it doesn’t centre around us. But I find it a difficult image to hold on to.

  • Heather Deeming

    “God instead surprised me, again, with abundance.” I love this so much. x

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  • Helene Burns

    I love this… it’s such a perfect description of where Grace meets us every single day and yet only when we reflect can we truly see how it has carried us further than we could have imagined. Your words and thoughts are a gift today Fiona – thank you. xx

  • You make my spirit sing, Fiona. Love this image of the ocean and the spirit brooding over the waters – speaks to me so very much today (and for the record, your being-made-new in this season is stunning to watch) xx

  • Saskia Wishart

    Beautiful Fiona.

  • Lisa Sands Scandrette

    Fiona, I love this! While I was reading, I thought, “Isn’t that abundant grace!” and then I got to your last sentence….”an ocean of grace to sustain me.”

  • Jo Cameron Duguid

    This could not have come at a better time for me, as I too have been seeing my pattern of how I have to go above and beyond what’s expected, in order to prove my worthiness. And the older I get, the more exhausting that is. So good to be reminded of the grace that is abundantly there for me, unconditionally.

  • Kieya

    “I had just a cup of water but God made it an ocean.”
    Satisfied 🙂

  • Melissa Kullman

    Birthing might take a lifetime… yes! I feel I need to remind myself of this continually. When I’m in the high moments and the low I need to ground myself in the idea that this is all part of the birthing of a bigger, better connect to God. The flow of life calls us to be present for all those moments. Wonderful words!