I Give You Your Faults

“Meg, I give you your faults.” “My faults!” Meg cried. “Your faults.” “But I’m always trying to get rid of my faults!” “Yes,” Mrs. Which said. “However, I think you’ll find that they’ll come in handy on Camazotz.” // I recently reread one of my favorite childhood novels, A Wrinkle in Time, in preparation for […]

This is a Love Story

This is a love story. But it starts with a heartbreak. A few weeks ago, my friend Emily found out that she wasn’t in the marriage she thought she had for the past three years. It turns out, her husband had been choosing someone else for the better part of two years, and that someone […]

The Tangled Truth of Love

“Enmeshed.” That was the word she used. She intertwined her fingers and tugged her hands, but they didn’t come apart. “It sounds like your identity was wrapped up in hers. When she died, a part of you did too.” I nodded, crying wordlessly. “It sounds like you need to rediscover yourself, as your self. Separate […]

To Love, We Have To Be There

I’m at war with myself. Maybe you understand what I mean: feeling that the best parts of ourselves can also be the worst. That the thing we are hungry for, is also the thing that will eat us alive if we’re not careful. That the things we’re gifted at—communication, organization, numbers, theology, politics, creativity—can become […]

Tend to the Beauty

A few years ago, I saw the artist Makoto Fujimura speak at a conference. My mother had died just eight months earlier and I could feel something slowly unraveling inside me. A second death, of sorts, taking place. I look back on it now and understand that my theology was rotting on the vine, exposing harmful […]