A Prayer for the Complicated Legacy

It was a rainy morning drive to work, and I was tired. My golden retriever decided not to sleep the night before and my anxiety decided to keep him company, so I only got three hours of sleep. I was recovering from a nasty cold and, of course, I was noticing the telltale signs that […]

I Give You Your Faults

“Meg, I give you your faults.” “My faults!” Meg cried. “Your faults.” “But I’m always trying to get rid of my faults!” “Yes,” Mrs. Which said. “However, I think you’ll find that they’ll come in handy on Camazotz.” // I recently reread one of my favorite childhood novels, A Wrinkle in Time, in preparation for […]

This is a Love Story

This is a love story. But it starts with a heartbreak. A few weeks ago, my friend Emily found out that she wasn’t in the marriage she thought she had for the past three years. It turns out, her husband had been choosing someone else for the better part of two years, and that someone […]

The Tangled Truth of Love

“Enmeshed.” That was the word she used. She intertwined her fingers and tugged her hands, but they didn’t come apart. “It sounds like your identity was wrapped up in hers. When she died, a part of you did too.” I nodded, crying wordlessly. “It sounds like you need to rediscover yourself, as your self. Separate […]

To Love, We Have To Be There

I’m at war with myself. Maybe you understand what I mean: feeling that the best parts of ourselves can also be the worst. That the thing we are hungry for, is also the thing that will eat us alive if we’re not careful. That the things we’re gifted at—communication, organization, numbers, theology, politics, creativity—can become […]