Circle Only One

It was on a preschool application, of all things. Right there on the second page, the words “Circle One Only” instructed me to pick a single ethnic origin for my mixed-race sons. I sat at the dining room table, staring at the packet of paperwork before me. Until now, my pen glided through the answers […]

Rise Up, Woman, Rise Up

Michelle Obama said it this past summer: When they go low, we go high. Heads nodded and hands clapped and tears rolled down the cheeks of many, as we stood in solidarity. “Lena,” one of the moms on ABC’s The Fosters, said it this way: Sometimes the best way to fight back, is to rise […]

The Red Couch: PROPHETIC LAMENT Discussion

For a good portion of my life, I didn’t think that lament belonged in the church. Christians, I believed, were happy-clappy, smiling-all-the-time, “I’ve got the river of life flowing out of me!” type of people. As I’ve written for SheLoves before, the unfortunate result of this misconception was that I didn’t cry for almost seven […]

Haplelujah, Indeed

I don’t often realize I’ve reached capacity until near-implosion occurs. My family and I had just made a major move: from the San Francisco Bay Area to Seattle, Washington, from blue skies to gray, from a comfortable knowing to what felt like a raw and callow Great Unknown. I was trying my hardest to make […]

This Woman Has Changed Me

Years ago, my friend Bianca and I traveled with our friend Laura to Costa Rica. When Laura and I arrived, jet-lagged and tired, dirty and sweaty, I wanted nothing more than to head to our little cabana to shower and sleep. But Bianca would have none of my tired shenanigans. Instead, she made me jump on the […]