Sliding Door Moments

Years ago, a concept in a relationship book changed me. It’s called the sliding door moment. According to Dr. John Gottman, a marriage and family expert, sliding door moments happen when we’re in relationship with one another. When something upsets us, or when someone makes us mad, we have the opportunity to open up the […]

Without Sacrifice There is No Resurrection

A funny thing happened on the way to writing this post: I had to sit with the word “sacrifice” longer than intended. I had to get to know and dig in and ruminate over its implications before my fingers could type the rest of these words. There we sat, just sacrifice and me. We sat […]

Circle Only One

It was on a preschool application, of all things. Right there on the second page, the words “Circle One Only” instructed me to pick a single ethnic origin for my mixed-race sons. I sat at the dining room table, staring at the packet of paperwork before me. Until now, my pen glided through the answers […]

Rise Up, Woman, Rise Up

Michelle Obama said it this past summer: When they go low, we go high. Heads nodded and hands clapped and tears rolled down the cheeks of many, as we stood in solidarity. “Lena,” one of the moms on ABC’s The Fosters, said it this way: Sometimes the best way to fight back, is to rise […]

The Red Couch: PROPHETIC LAMENT Discussion

For a good portion of my life, I didn’t think that lament belonged in the church. Christians, I believed, were happy-clappy, smiling-all-the-time, “I’ve got the river of life flowing out of me!” type of people. As I’ve written for SheLoves before, the unfortunate result of this misconception was that I didn’t cry for almost seven […]