I Choose Subversive Joy

Lately, it feels like voices of hate have been amplified. I turn on the news. I log on to Facebook. I listen as fear strangles the heart of conversation around me. Permission has been granted—maybe more than ever before, maybe for the first time in a long time—to hate, vilify and attack our fellow humans. […]

Sliding Door Moments

Years ago, a concept in a relationship book changed me. It’s called the sliding door moment. According to Dr. John Gottman, a marriage and family expert, sliding door moments happen when we’re in relationship with one another. When something upsets us, or when someone makes us mad, we have the opportunity to open up the […]

Without Sacrifice There is No Resurrection

A funny thing happened on the way to writing this post: I had to sit with the word “sacrifice” longer than intended. I had to get to know and dig in and ruminate over its implications before my fingers could type the rest of these words. There we sat, just sacrifice and me. We sat […]

Circle Only One

It was on a preschool application, of all things. Right there on the second page, the words “Circle One Only” instructed me to pick a single ethnic origin for my mixed-race sons. I sat at the dining room table, staring at the packet of paperwork before me. Until now, my pen glided through the answers […]

Rise Up, Woman, Rise Up

Michelle Obama said it this past summer: When they go low, we go high. Heads nodded and hands clapped and tears rolled down the cheeks of many, as we stood in solidarity. “Lena,” one of the moms on ABC’s The Fosters, said it this way: Sometimes the best way to fight back, is to rise […]