Riding the Edge

This year is a big year for my husband, Jose, and I.  After parenting five kids for 26 years, our youngest—twins—have left for college and we have an empty nest. There are no more kids at home to run and fix dinner for, no more watching games on freezing Denver nights, no more school programs […]

Golden Repair

Years ago a friend told me about the traditional Japanese art form of Kintsugi, where a precious metal brings together the pieces of a broken pottery item and also enhances the breaks. “Kin” means golden and “tsugi” means repair. Together it means “golden repair.” Golden repair. Bringing together the broken pieces and enhancing the breaks. […]

Listening To vs Learning From

These days we hear a lot about the importance of listening to voices from the margins. For so long, the dominant voices have been held by mostly male, mostly white leaders—not only in the church and ministry, but also in high levels of countless systems. Slowly but surely things are shifting in small and healing […]

Backs Straight, Heads Lifted

Sometimes I get calls from women asking for help to get out of an abusive relationship. Skittish, scared, and filled with shame, they reach out and share their story. It’s so brave. Some are rich, some are poor. Some are educated, while others have never graduated from high school. Some have kids, while others don’t. […]

Slow Everything Down

I’m a fast person. I type fast. I walk fast. I talk fast. I get tasks done fast. I’m just not a tortoise; I’m definitely a hare. My husband, Jose, always teases me that I can do the same task as him in half the time. This is a good quality in some ways. I […]