Was it the V-Neck?

At the tender age of six, I was involved in a tense confrontation. My family and I were leaving the sanctuary of our small, Mennonite Brethren church, when an older gentleman remarked on what beautiful hair I had. He used the German phrase—schönes Haar—and stretched out his hand to touch my thick, dark hair. As […]

Get the Joy Confetti Back

This past January, Elizabeth Gilbert wrote about a practice she does throughout the year. At the end of each day, she takes a bit of paper and writes down the happiest moment of her day. Then she drops it into her aptly named “Happiness Jar.” Every darn day. No matter how crappy the last 24 […]

My Flannel-y Act of Resistance

My eyes widened as I scrolled through the comments section. Insults, scorn-laced words and grand “unfollowing” declarations [insert major eye roll here] were being flung across the thread, like some sort verbal dodgeball match. The game was being played out by hundreds of strangers. They all had an opinion they felt compelled to announce, often […]

When Words Fail, Make Awkward Eye Contact

A boy once told me I was terrible at making eye contact. We were in the university cafeteria, and I swear I was listening, but my eyes were flitting about the busy space, landing back on him every few seconds. Our friendship never recovered his innocent observation, as I became incredibly self-conscious of what my […]

Choosing the Right Outfit for Therapy

“Does this outfit say ‘mentally stable’ to you?” My husband turns and stares incredulously. Not at the outfit, mind you. At me. “What are you talking about?” “Nothing.” Sigh. “Never mind.” I turn back to the mirror. Olive green khaki pants, a soft long-sleeved waffle shirt, sporty jacket, and my white Adidas shoes. If these […]