The Journey to Belong


I scrolled through the photos of the gathering on Facebook. Smiling faces. Arms thrown around each other’s shoulders. It was my high school 20th reunion. Everyone looked so happy, as if they were having the time of their lives. And I wasn’t there. Emotional memories flooded in. Back then, I always felt just on the outside of friendship […]

Standing With Martin Luther King, Jr.


I come to this weekend every year and feel detached from the reality of Martin Luther King Jr.—his family, his friends and his community. I don’t feel like I am a part of his suffering or his courage. But I want to be because as Chandra White-Cummings reminded us, we are sisters and brothers in […]

Find a Way to Gather


I have a friend who gets up early every single morning of his life and goes to an AA meeting. Rain or shine, snow or sleet, he’s there. Another friend lives alone but finds a way to get to our open space hours at The Refuge every week because a hug and human touch is always […]

A PhD Shower and a Call to Celebrate


It started as a conversation among our group of girlfriends. A comment that: we throw baby showers and wedding showers, but we don’t really take the time to celebrate the women in our lives who aren’t married, or haven’t had children. When do they get to have a (insert life event here)-shower? At the time, […]

What I Want You to Know


[TRIGGER WARNING: Descriptions of verbal, emotional, physical abuse & economic abuse] by R. I fell down the rabbit hole of domestic violence, or was deceived down the hole. It doesn’t matter how I got there; it matters that I was there. I am still there, although divorced. This is what I want you to know […]