We Are Here, Beautiful

Not long ago, I attended the funeral of a stranger. Several women and I gathered at the train station on a Friday evening and travelled to another city to attend together. We went because a friend-of-a-friend’s husband had a stroke suddenly while in the Netherlands and had been in a coma. They took him off […]

A Love that Disrupts

One of the great agitators of our time, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., said, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” A lot of people like to cherry-pick this quote from Dr. King’s legacy once a year, on his birthday. He was such a remarkable human, and […]

In Sickness and in Health

At the age of 21, I stood in a ridiculously huge white dress, grinning up at my new husband. We were young—I had graduated from university only a month before—and we were full of life and energy. As we knelt under the grand arch of the nave, we said our wedding vows with a naive […]

Am I Siding with the Vulnerable?

“There’s really no such thing as the ‘voiceless.’ There are only the deliberately silenced, or the preferably unheard.” —Arundhati Roy I have come to believe that nice Christians are the greatest enemies of faithfulness. I recall a conversation I had at the predominantly white evangelical college I attended. He was an Asian American brother recounting […]

If Your Church Disappeared, Would Anyone Notice?

“If your church was suddenly gone from your city—would anybody notice? Would anybody care?” This question was posed to my husband and I at a conference and it confronted us deeply. We had been pastors in our city for a many years. We were sure our church family would miss us greatly, but we couldn’t […]