When I’m a Terrible Human

I was such a jerk. I was a jerk to a kind, unsuspecting person who didn’t deserve it in the least. My stomach churned with a particularly shameful cocktail of guilt and regret. It had been a day. Well, I suppose it had been a month. The kids were back in school, with complicated schedules […]

Battle Cry

By Carrie Kuba | Twitter: @bellinka09  It was even a part of our vows. When the ring was placed on my finger overlooking the ocean from the cliffs of Mendocino at sunset—we shared our hopes and dreams of exploring our careers as a teacher and a software engineer around the world, raising global children, and […]

It’s Okay to be Gray

She sat across the table from me, and paused briefly for a bite of salad. She had just delivered The Speech, with all the resoluteness, passion and fire that comes with it. It was not the first time I’d heard The Speech; I’ve encountered versions of it my whole life. I have heard these words […]

Marriage: Beyond the Toothpaste Cap

The pastor assigned to conduct our pre-marital counselling tilted back in his seat and smiled wryly at us. He must have known, looking at our young, eager faces. How very unprepared we were. How little we knew about making a life together. Perhaps he thought we wouldn’t heed his advice, in our freshly engaged, love-soaked […]

I Am Undone

In my therapy session this week (yes, I talk to a therapist every week and have done so for 25 years), the word that emerged was: undone. Exactly right. The entire session had felt like a chaotic purge of some sort, one story after another came tumbling out, seemingly unconnected. And yet, as she so […]