When Words Fail, Make Awkward Eye Contact

A boy once told me I was terrible at making eye contact. We were in the university cafeteria, and I swear I was listening, but my eyes were flitting about the busy space, landing back on him every few seconds. Our friendship never recovered his innocent observation, as I became incredibly self-conscious of what my […]

Am I My Sister’s Keeper?

This is a confession. A few months ago, I ended a friendship. I did it badly. This isn’t really about whether or not the friendship should have ended. It needed to, for a lot of messy and tangled reasons. Maybe this is taboo, but I’ve learned the hard way that some friendships are meant to […]

If the Yoke Ain’t Easy…

Everywhere I look there is work to be done. Everywhere. My kids’ school sends home fliers asking, always asking. For wipes, for Kleenex, for dry-erase markers, for paper. They need chaperones and cupcakes for the Valentine’s Day party. They need time and resources and they are doing good good work, and I want to help. […]

Bold Activism for the Cowardly

The other day, I briefly chatted with an acquaintance from church. “You do any activism lately?” she asked, smiling warmly. I blinked, surprised that she asked … surprised that, when she thought of me, she thought of the word “activism” (as opposed to say, homebody or slippers or hot tea). I was, perhaps, most surprised […]

Love in Translation

By Joanna Saul Carns | Twitter: @ModernRuthPrjct “A friend is the one that lends a hand during the time of need.”  —Arabic proverb One. واحد I stood inside my local food pantry, looking at the family before me. The man was dressed in a gray sweat suit and white tennis shoes. His black hair and […]