I Wish We Were More Honest About Abuse

[Trigger warning: Conversation about abuse. ] Can we talk about a big clobber word? Abuse. Also, its derivatives: abusive and abuser. They’re ugly words, kind of like the word racist or rape. Be an abusive parent, and you might get your kids taken away, or, at the very least, be shamed and ostracized. Abuse is horrible, […]

Beatitude for the Privileged

“Blessed are you when you give a feast and invite those who cannot repay you; for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the just.” —Luke 14:14 In Luke 14, we find Jesus dining at the house of a well-connected man, a ruler who kept company with the influential and affluent Pharisees. Jesus tells […]

Was it the V-Neck?

At the tender age of six, I was involved in a tense confrontation. My family and I were leaving the sanctuary of our small, Mennonite Brethren church, when an older gentleman remarked on what beautiful hair I had. He used the German phrase—schönes Haar—and stretched out his hand to touch my thick, dark hair. As […]

I Have Such Hope for Girls

I have deep Hope for Girls. I know I stand on the shoulders of every woman who has gone before me and has made a way for me. I know I have not come to this moment in history—this freedom to move and vote and do business and write and lead and preach—on my own. […]

Sometimes We’re a Little Too Willing to Sacrifice

There’s a story going around Facebook this week about a woman who was asked to take notes in a work meeting. One of her male colleagues started his presentation and out of nowhere said, “Martha, you take notes.” He kept going without even waiting for a response. At the end of his presentation he asked […]