Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World + GIVEAWAY

This past April I celebrated 48 years of adopted living. In July we celebrated with our children 12 years of adopted family life. Adoption bookends my experience of family, both as daughter and as mother. Several years ago I noticed how more people were writing about adoption, but I didn’t recognize my experience in their words. […]

Learning to Ask For Help

“Just because I am quiet, it doesn’t mean I’m OK.” These were the words that I spoke to my husband during one of the most challenging seasons of our lives. It was the winter of 2008. Several months earlier John’s younger brother had died quite suddenly leaving behind his grieving wife, three teenage sons and […]

This Is Where I Sit

I grew up in a church culture full of absolutes—the whole world was black and white, light and dark, us and them. We were taught, with darkness pushing in all around us, we needed to take a stand. Take a stand for Christ. Stand for what is right. Stand as the light in the dark […]

I Wish We Were More Honest About Abuse

[Trigger warning: Conversation about abuse. ] Can we talk about a big clobber word? Abuse. Also, its derivatives: abusive and abuser. They’re ugly words, kind of like the word racist or rape. Be an abusive parent, and you might get your kids taken away, or, at the very least, be shamed and ostracized. Abuse is horrible, […]

Learning to Fight Like Grown-Ups

Recently an interview with Eugene Peterson made waves when it appeared that he had changed his views on same sex marriage. Even as I read the words in the interview I knew what was coming next: the yelling and the fights, the crowds ready to throw out the man’s entire life work because they were […]