The Tangled Truth of Love

“Enmeshed.” That was the word she used. She intertwined her fingers and tugged her hands, but they didn’t come apart. “It sounds like your identity was wrapped up in hers. When she died, a part of you did too.” I nodded, crying wordlessly. “It sounds like you need to rediscover yourself, as your self. Separate […]

Finding My Way Back to Joy

“Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you will suddenly know everything there is to be known.” ― A.A. Milne It was like we were in the middle of the fireworks show as they exploded with light and sound on every […]

Wretchedly Familiar: When Life Feels Unfair

Wasn’t it just two months ago that I wrote about lament in this space? I checked, friends, and yes, it was. In September. Today, I find myself needing to return to those songs-in-a-minor-key for a while longer. October’s theme opened my sad heart to a season of rejoicing, for remembering all of the gracious things […]

The Moments That Change Us

My parents and I walked down a narrow set of concrete stairs to get there. Each step moved us closer to a moment in our family story that changed us. Once we were down inside the basement restaurant, we walked to a space in the center. We were surrounded by red and white checkered tablecloths […]

Learning to Listen Well to the Low Notes of My Marriage

Not long after my husband Dyami and I got married, he bought a subwoofer. For those of you not conversant in audiophile jargon, a subwoofer is a speaker “dedicated to the reproduction of low-pitched audio frequencies known as bass.” The subwoofer was about the size of a large end table, heavy as all get out, […]