The Gold Standard of Friendship

By Carrie Kuba | Twitter: @bellinka09 I wasn’t living up to the expectation. I did not realize for many, many years the expectation was unattainable. I am not sure when exactly it started—college maybe? We were an admirable triad. Everyone thought so. We joked about how we were preparing for our future husbands in the […]

Learning to Ask For Help

“Just because I am quiet, it doesn’t mean I’m OK.” These were the words that I spoke to my husband during one of the most challenging seasons of our lives. It was the winter of 2008. Several months earlier John’s younger brother had died quite suddenly leaving behind his grieving wife, three teenage sons and […]

This Is Where I Sit

I grew up in a church culture full of absolutes—the whole world was black and white, light and dark, us and them. We were taught, with darkness pushing in all around us, we needed to take a stand. Take a stand for Christ. Stand for what is right. Stand as the light in the dark […]

Sliding Door Moments

Years ago, a concept in a relationship book changed me. It’s called the sliding door moment. According to Dr. John Gottman, a marriage and family expert, sliding door moments happen when we’re in relationship with one another. When something upsets us, or when someone makes us mad, we have the opportunity to open up the […]

Showing Up When It Hurts

By Sarah Quezada | Twitter: @SarahQuezada When you’re three years old and King of the Tree House, there’s nothing better than slamming the trap door shut to keep out your big sister. I’m pretty sure that’s what my son Isaac was doing when his finger got in the way and he nearly took the tip clean […]