Forgiving Myself for Being Late to the Game

by Shae Jassmann Sisters, I have a confession: For much of my life, I have not been on our side. I am guilty of sexism against my own sex so much so that I have been heard saying things like, “I think some women are great in management but I would prefer a man as […]

Two Blonde Monsters and a Swingset

The best 20 minutes of my week were spent pointing ten red lacquered toenails toward the sky, then tossing my feet behind me and pulling that sturdy swing back to start the pendulum again. Two tiny blonde monsters pumped their little legs next to me and for a few minutes all was right with the […]

Heavy Boy, Light Girl

I overheard a girl, upper elementary, medium length jet black hair. In Chinese she asks her mother, “What does it mean to be ‘heavy-boy-light-girl?’” I winced and turned my head, unwilling to look into the eyes of an innocent child while her mother explained. “Heavy-boy-light-girl” is a Chinese proverb to encapsulate the worldview that men […]

Permission to Be Loved

We sat around the table on a Monday afternoon eating turkey sandwiches when my friend said, I’m bisexual. Um, please pass the honey mustard? It might have been the last place I expected our conversation to go that day. I felt honored when he trusted me with this part of his story. I listened and listened […]

I Chose the Shorts

Pink Shorts and White Tank Tops Despite his gruff sensibilities and his sudden awkward pauses when we cried, my father was a good daddy for girls. He was careful to keep the romanticism of movies in check with reality. “You know, Osheta, you don’t have to get married someday,” he would remind me at the […]