The Song of the Girls Who Don’t Wear Dresses

O_Esther

By Esther Emery | Twitter @estheremery Ask me what I know of beauty, and I’ll tell you about black boots and spiky hair. Ribbed tank tops and belts as thick as highways. The color black, and weight, and thickness. I come from the tribe of girls who don’t wear dresses. It’s subtle now. These days, […]

Lipstick and Seminary

O_Amy

For a couple years in seminary, I didn’t wear lipstick. I twisted my long hair up tightly, wore dark turtlenecks and covered my eyes with glasses. I didn’t speak much in class unless I knew it counted toward my grade. In that case, I carefully planned what I’d say before opening my mouth. I didn’t want to […]

Free to Take Up Space

L_Bethany

On days I embrace my real authentic self, I’m a “strong personality,” as those around me (mostly) lovingly describe me. When I advocate, strategize, or call out the good and bad I see, I am 100% in the game. I often laugh and quote Michael Scott from the TV show The Office, who says this […]

Living With Disapproval

L_Kathy

I hate disapproval. I know we’re not supposed to use the word “hate” but the truth is that “dislike” just isn’t a strong enough word. Maybe “I can’t stand disapproval” is a better alternative. Regardless of finding the exact right word for it, I know this—I do all kinds of tricks to make people like […]

A New Heart, Beyond Stereotypical Womanhood

M-AMY2

We first met, one January morning, during her office hours. Dr. Catherine Kroeger’s eyes sparkled when our discussion turned to women in the Bible. She spoke of them fondly as if they were close friends—Miriam, Deborah, Abigail and a host of others from the Old and New Testaments. She spoke warmly to me although she […]