Catch the Moments Between the Bookends

On August 18, I celebrated my fortieth birthday—the bookend of a long and winding decade. Months before my birthday, I’d planned on celebrating with a huge outdoor party in which I could chat and hang out with all my friends and family. As the days crept by, the ache for a big party ebbed and […]

Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World + GIVEAWAY

This past April I celebrated 48 years of adopted living. In July we celebrated with our children 12 years of adopted family life. Adoption bookends my experience of family, both as daughter and as mother. Several years ago I noticed how more people were writing about adoption, but I didn’t recognize my experience in their words. […]

On the Days When I Am The Elephant in the Room

By Erin Thomas | Twitter: @erinthomas_123 I didn’t know what to do with my hands. Suddenly they seemed like useless clay weights dragging the rest of my body to the floor. I couldn’t breathe. Was it hot in here? I thought it was hot, but then I felt cold. No, hot. Definitely hot. Wait, cold. Where […]

Learning to Ask For Help

“Just because I am quiet, it doesn’t mean I’m OK.” These were the words that I spoke to my husband during one of the most challenging seasons of our lives. It was the winter of 2008. Several months earlier John’s younger brother had died quite suddenly leaving behind his grieving wife, three teenage sons and […]

The Gate, Part II

Here is a thing that I’m learning: At some point in your life, you will walk through the gate that someone’s life made for you–a space in the exact shape of their unique, specific being, much the same shape as a question mark, so that you can finally enter the world. It will change everything […]