Listening To vs Learning From

These days we hear a lot about the importance of listening to voices from the margins. For so long, the dominant voices have been held by mostly male, mostly white leaders—not only in the church and ministry, but also in high levels of countless systems. Slowly but surely things are shifting in small and healing […]

I Am Undone

In my therapy session this week (yes, I talk to a therapist every week and have done so for 25 years), the word that emerged was: undone. Exactly right. The entire session had felt like a chaotic purge of some sort, one story after another came tumbling out, seemingly unconnected. And yet, as she so […]

Slow Everything Down

I’m a fast person. I type fast. I walk fast. I talk fast. I get tasks done fast. I’m just not a tortoise; I’m definitely a hare. My husband, Jose, always teases me that I can do the same task as him in half the time. This is a good quality in some ways. I […]

When Breathing is Listening

A few years ago, I participated in a workshop about active listening. I assumed I was a good listener—I’m attentive, I look people in the eye, I nod along, acknowledging our shared experience. What I did not realize is that this is not, in fact, active listening. Our guide paired us off and we sat […]

It’s Easier to Do Than Listen

Last week I was at a gathering hosted by one of my favorite organizations in Denver—The Interfaith Alliance of Colorado. Each time I am with these folks I am humbled by the beauty of men and women across faith traditions who gather to advocate for justice and change in our city and our state. Our shared […]