Love Thy Neighbour

I am not a very good neighbour. We’ve lived in this rented house for nearly 18 months, and I know the names of just two of our neighbours. I know the old man who lives next door, who mumbles so badly I understand only about 20% of what he says. Most of our relationship is him […]

Bold as Starlight

Bold used to sound like an ugly adjective to me. I came into the world early–at a mere 3 and ½ lbs. My lungs weren’t ready for the world.  I was rushed from one hospital to another and spent my first 21 days in an incubator, connected to tubes. The only way my family could make contact […]

How Much Can A Heart Really Hold?

I remember the first time I read it. I was in college and at a friend’s house. She and some other friends and I went to get something out of her room and covering the walnut brown door a poster said this: “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.” […]

Remember When You Were Aliens

My inheritance is a mixed bag. I am one woman’s biological daughter and another woman’s adopted child. I am a descendant of the Mexican families who populated California and also the Irish who suffered a great potato famine once. My age reveals that I am more Latina than I thought given my penchant for icons […]

I Believe in You

Ten years ago, when we first started The Refuge, my faith community in Denver, I received an unexpected donation from a friend with a simple note enclosed. It only said four words:  “We believe in you.” We believe in you. The minute I read those four words, I started to cry. And even now, years […]