When You and Your Husband Have Different Callings

When my husband and I met, we knew one of us would have to give up our calling: acting in Chicago for him, or teaching in China for me. Due for time back in the states, I gave up China. And because of the nature of marriage and parenting three children four and under, he […]

Did You Hear What God Said About You?

A couple of weeks ago my husband taught a message called “Fighting for your Family.” As he was teaching, he pulled out one of my old bibles I’d often used many years ago when our marriage was in a crisis. I hadn’t seen that particular Bible for quite awhile, so I was amazed that he […]

I Still Choose Love

“I love you,” they would murmur, through yeasty breath and sleepy eyes. Some would say it after just a few days, others in the heightened moment of a sexual encounter. I would soak their words into the hollow crevices of my heart, longing for there to be truth in every intoxicating syllable. That kind of […]

The Love Mandala

There are well worn paths across the carpet which tell of their coming and going and all the myriad ways they were hemmed together as a piece over a day or two or a thousand. They still pull even in her absence The other day an aroma enveloped him like a cloud of witnesses And, […]

Rewriting a Love Story: On Becoming Real

“The opposite of faith is not doubt, but certainty.” —Anne Lamott “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.” —John 12:24 (ESV) We pulled into the driveway at my brother’s home after an hour-and-a-half-long ride […]