When Breathing is Listening

A few years ago, I participated in a workshop about active listening. I assumed I was a good listener—I’m attentive, I look people in the eye, I nod along, acknowledging our shared experience. What I did not realize is that this is not, in fact, active listening. Our guide paired us off and we sat […]

After Charlottesville I Am Without Words

I like to think of myself as a person of words. I love to read, talk, preach and write—all of which require some facility with language. I even had a dear friend whisper in my ear a week or so ago, “You know what I love about you? Your vocabulary!” My what? Well, okay, I’ll […]

The Red Couch: Threading My Prayer Rug Discussion

After graduating from college, I traveled to Kathmandu, Nepal to experience a new culture while seeing if teaching was a good fit for my future. I spent my mornings teaching English to Nepali middle school students and my afternoons and evenings exploring the city with my team, which consisted of mostly non-religious folks. In fact, I was […]

The Red Couch: Blood Brothers Discussion

Naïvely, I have always viewed the Israeli-Palestinian conflict in terms of Jews and Muslims. The descendants of Isaac and the descendants of Ishmael. Of course, nothing is as black and white and the conflict over Israel and Palestine impacts many more people than those two particular groups. Elias Chacour’s memoir, Blood Brothers reminds me again […]

Parable of a Peacemaker

Jealousy came knocking today. I wasn’t planning to have her over for tea, but such is the case with our relationship. She just shows up and I have to decide: do I let her in and we have a proper conversation or do I ignore her and try to pretend that everything is ok. Knock, […]