Dear Kadija

Dear Kadija (aka, Black African in Libya), I am sorry. My heart shatters into a thousand pieces at every remembrance of you. I cannot forget you, because I look exactly like you. I am so sorry. I am sorry that it took a CNN report of the live auction of you in 2017 for the […]

Confessions of a White Ally

A good writer zips the reader into their skin, according to Memoirist Mary Karr. A good Christian zips herself into the skin of others. As a white woman researching race, ethnicity and white privilege in the United States, I thought I was doing this—learning empathy, increasing compassion. I read the books, listened to podcasts, shared […]

I Carry All Their Stories In Me

My hands are his hands. They are the same shape as his and move like so – just like his did I marvel at the memory of this giant of a man, of this larger-than-life presence, of this proud and passionate man with these hands, these soft and gentle and determined hands. I carry him […]

Let Us Say, Grace

In our family, when we have sliced the turkey, made the cranberry sauce, when the gravy is smooth and the brussels sprouts are steaming, we call everyone to the kitchen to stand in a circle. We call everyone to come and pause to thank the God of Heaven for the bounty, for the togetherness, for […]

Dear White Supremacist

Dear White Supremacist, Do you think we would ever sit at a table and share a meal together? Would we ever share our stories, fears, thoughts and opinions with each other? Would we look into each other’s eyes, and see our own reflections? Do we belong to each other? I’ve been wondering this for a […]