Let Us Say, Grace

In our family, when we have sliced the turkey, made the cranberry sauce, when the gravy is smooth and the brussels sprouts are steaming, we call everyone to the kitchen to stand in a circle. We call everyone to come and pause to thank the God of Heaven for the bounty, for the togetherness, for […]

Today, If You are White

Today, if you are white, we have one job to do. Today, if you are white, it doesn’t matter where you go to church or if you go to church, but it matters that we do this one thing … Today, in the aftermath of the white supremacist rally in Charlottesville, it is required of […]

When Sex Isn’t Magical

by Anonymous I carefully string the beads on a wisp of fishing wire. They’re clear blue, about ten of them. Then I thread the letters: T-R-U-E L-O-V-E W-A-I-T-S. More blue beads. I tie it round my wrist, feeling accomplished. This will fix everything. / / / / I came of age in the late nineties. […]

I Thought My Marriage Was a Huge Mistake (It Wasn’t)

Our shame is the enemy of someone else’s success. I scribbled this sentence on the back of an old Taco Bell receipt and stuck it on our fridge the night of our first counseling session. We had been married less than six months and I felt like I had ruined both our lives when I […]

Open Your Eyes to the Light

“However, late, then, it may seem, let us rouse ourselves from lethargy. That is what scripture urges on us when it says: the time has come for us to rouse ourselves from sleep. Let us open our eyes to the light that can change us into the likeness of  God. Let our ears be alert […]