When You and Your Husband Have Different Callings

When my husband and I met, we knew one of us would have to give up our calling: acting in Chicago for him, or teaching in China for me. Due for time back in the states, I gave up China. And because of the nature of marriage and parenting three children four and under, he […]

How I Learned to Stop Assuming the Worst

I’m wading through grad school right now, somewhere in the messy middle of things. My goal in doing the grad program I chose, had a lot to do with an inner restlessness I can’t quite explain, and a desire to know I’ve put my back into life and am making the most use of the cards […]

We Have a Limitless Capacity to Love

Few people have shaped my life like my beloved Oma Toews, my maternal grandmother. She was a woman with extraordinary capacity and I was blessed to be a recipient of her huge and bountiful heart. Her capacity to love has instructed me all of my life. I will never forget the day of her funeral […]

God in the Darkness

Night comes early this time of year. Darkness falls even before we’ve had the opportunity to gather around the dinner table. We are in darkness more than we are in light during the months of December. And I feel it. I’m not a sunshine seeker. In fact, I love the crunch of snow under my […]

The Space of a Breath

“Always, we begin again.” I imagine St. Benedict pausing as he writes down these words in his Rule of Life, and looking up at me, gazing intensely at me to see if I am hearing him, if I am understanding this most important of lines. He knows, I think. What it’s like to be a […]