Learning to Listen Well to the Low Notes of My Marriage

Not long after my husband Dyami and I got married, he bought a subwoofer. For those of you not conversant in audiophile jargon, a subwoofer is a speaker “dedicated to the reproduction of low-pitched audio frequencies known as bass.” The subwoofer was about the size of a large end table, heavy as all get out, […]

Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World + GIVEAWAY

This past April I celebrated 48 years of adopted living. In July we celebrated with our children 12 years of adopted family life. Adoption bookends my experience of family, both as daughter and as mother. Several years ago I noticed how more people were writing about adoption, but I didn’t recognize my experience in their words. […]

The Gold Standard of Friendship

By Carrie Kuba | Twitter: @bellinka09 I wasn’t living up to the expectation. I did not realize for many, many years the expectation was unattainable. I am not sure when exactly it started—college maybe? We were an admirable triad. Everyone thought so. We joked about how we were preparing for our future husbands in the […]

When Sex Isn’t Magical

by Anonymous I carefully string the beads on a wisp of fishing wire. They’re clear blue, about ten of them. Then I thread the letters: T-R-U-E L-O-V-E W-A-I-T-S. More blue beads. I tie it round my wrist, feeling accomplished. This will fix everything. / / / / I came of age in the late nineties. […]

Permission Granted: Speak Life and Love

By Sue Donaldson | Twitter: @welcomeheart As I prepared to attend my daughter’s Mother-Daughter Sorority weekend, I received this warning text: “Mom, just so you know, it will be an eclectic group of moms–The High-heeled Wine- drinking Mom. The Atheist Hippie Mom. The Homey Mom. The Divorced Psychologist Grieving Mom …” “No worries,” I replied. “I […]