Letting Ourselves Be Loved

I nearly didn’t go to the women’s retreat. But when your husband urges you to leave behind the dishes, the looming deadlines, and the “to do” lists to escape to the mountains for the weekend, you listen. I signed up two days before the trip, wondering what I was getting myself into. Women’s retreats are […]

Failure to Thrive

How long do we need to live somewhere before it feels like home? A year? Two years? Ten? It’s been three years since we relocated from Chicago to Colorado and my husband and I have had approximately 200 conversations about staying, going, and the metaphorical roots, weeds and soil of home. We didn’t anticipate the […]

Dear Kadija

Dear Kadija (aka, Black African in Libya), I am sorry. My heart shatters into a thousand pieces at every remembrance of you. I cannot forget you, because I look exactly like you. I am so sorry. I am sorry that it took a CNN report of the live auction of you in 2017 for the […]

We Grieve and Then We Hope

By Gina Butz | twitter: @gina_butz “I don’t know if I’ll ever find what I have right now again. There’s just so much that’s unknown.” That was our son’s deep cry as we talked one night. He’s slogging through the final weeks of his senior year of high school, staring down freshman year at one […]

Marriage: Beyond the Toothpaste Cap

The pastor assigned to conduct our pre-marital counselling tilted back in his seat and smiled wryly at us. He must have known, looking at our young, eager faces. How very unprepared we were. How little we knew about making a life together. Perhaps he thought we wouldn’t heed his advice, in our freshly engaged, love-soaked […]