When Sex Isn’t Magical

by Anonymous I carefully string the beads on a wisp of fishing wire. They’re clear blue, about ten of them. Then I thread the letters: T-R-U-E L-O-V-E W-A-I-T-S. More blue beads. I tie it round my wrist, feeling accomplished. This will fix everything. / / / / I came of age in the late nineties. […]

Learning to Ask For Help

“Just because I am quiet, it doesn’t mean I’m OK.” These were the words that I spoke to my husband during one of the most challenging seasons of our lives. It was the winter of 2008. Several months earlier John’s younger brother had died quite suddenly leaving behind his grieving wife, three teenage sons and […]

Teach Me How to Age Well

To the women in my life, Please don’t be afraid of aging. I know you’re weary of stretch marks and wrinkled skin and saggy boobs. I know you strategically drape your sarees to cover your belly, and constantly keep checking to see if your shirt covers your flabby arms. I see you restocking products that […]

The Land of Tears

“It is such a secret place, the land of tears.” —Antoine de Saint-Exupéry,The Little Prince The land of tears is a place I’ve visited many times over my life; a strange and secret country, indeed. I could say it feels familiar, except that it doesn’t. Not quite. Each visit is unique, bringing its own sadness, regret, […]

I’ve Heard It Said (More Times than I Can Count)

I’ve Heard It Said (more times than I can count). In church, people told me women are more easily deceived than men because, Eve. They also said a woman shouldn’t be an elder in the church because we are too emotional. Also, the argument that a woman should not be the senior pastor of a […]