The First Devil

I finally made an appointment to go back to therapy. I’m not even sure what it was about this particular day that made me do it. It was not my lowest moment. It was definitely not my highest. It was just another day, and I was tired. I was just done with all of the […]

Be Bold For Change

I’ll never forget the day when my husband told me he had to go on a trip, so he needed me to teach our Bible Study group. To him it seemed like such a simple request. When I promptly told him I wasn’t going to teach it, he was quite taken aback and became insistent […]

Deconstructing the Narratives

In June, my husband and I purchased new phones. This may not seem particularly noteworthy to some, but you have to understand that by the time we finally got new phones, I had had my iPhone 4 for nearly four years. It had a shattered screen, it had stopped saving my text messages, it had […]

Are You My Mother? (No, I’m Not)

There’s a story about Ernest Hemingway that goes like this: A local paper was running a competition for the saddest short story. Hemingway is said to have won with just six words: “For sale: baby shoes, never worn.” Can’t you just feel the ache of that? You can almost hear dreams shattering like glass. The […]

Pretty Girls Have Long Hair, And Other Lies

I grew up in a fairly conservative church. Not so conservative that women were forbidden to cut their hair, but the line between beautiful and long hair was drawn thickly and clearly. Pretty girls, godly girls, had long hair. So I grew out my hair. It did not go well. My hair flatly refused to cascade […]