Be Bold For Change

I’ll never forget the day when my husband told me he had to go on a trip, so he needed me to teach our Bible Study group. To him it seemed like such a simple request. When I promptly told him I wasn’t going to teach it, he was quite taken aback and became insistent […]

Deconstructing the Narratives

In June, my husband and I purchased new phones. This may not seem particularly noteworthy to some, but you have to understand that by the time we finally got new phones, I had had my iPhone 4 for nearly four years. It had a shattered screen, it had stopped saving my text messages, it had […]

Are You My Mother? (No, I’m Not)

There’s a story about Ernest Hemingway that goes like this: A local paper was running a competition for the saddest short story. Hemingway is said to have won with just six words: “For sale: baby shoes, never worn.” Can’t you just feel the ache of that? You can almost hear dreams shattering like glass. The […]

Pretty Girls Have Long Hair, And Other Lies

I grew up in a fairly conservative church. Not so conservative that women were forbidden to cut their hair, but the line between beautiful and long hair was drawn thickly and clearly. Pretty girls, godly girls, had long hair. So I grew out my hair. It did not go well. My hair flatly refused to cascade […]

Love is Not Supposed to be Easy

Recently there was a thread on Reddit that stopped me in my tracks. There was a woman—we’ll call her Jane—who was looking for some relationship advice. Months earlier Jane had bought a pair of tickets to Hamilton—the musical sensation that is taking over Broadway. She was planning to take her mom for a week’s vacation […]