I Can’t Rub My Brown Away

It’s hard to stay hidden when you’re the only brown girl in the room. I can’t slip into the background and hope no one notices me. I can’t rub my skin color away and blend into the sea of white. It’s hard to stay hidden when you have big, unruly hair that takes up space. […]

We Are a Beautiful Roar

What an incredible time to be alive as a woman on this earth. Twenty years ago, I became part of a movement of women who prayed that abuse against women would be revealed. We asked that human trafficking, slavery, violence against women, sexual abuse—everything that was so evil and still so hidden, diminishing women in the […]

This is a Love Story

This is a love story. But it starts with a heartbreak. A few weeks ago, my friend Emily found out that she wasn’t in the marriage she thought she had for the past three years. It turns out, her husband had been choosing someone else for the better part of two years, and that someone […]

Becoming

I wish I were, but I’m not. I wish I were wise and good and gentle and kind. I wish I were delightful and loving and caring. I wish I were calm and demure. I wish I were gracious and humble. I wish I were chill and even-keeled and steady. I wish I were forgiving […]

Spinning Straw Into Gold

These last few days of the year hang a little jagged. They are hemming in a collection of words and doings and dreams and dust and there are loose threads about. There is much that I want to forget. So many crystalline words and hasty decisions and all that revisionist history and tunnel vision, not […]