The Moments That Change Us

My parents and I walked down a narrow set of concrete stairs to get there. Each step moved us closer to a moment in our family story that changed us. Once we were down inside the basement restaurant, we walked to a space in the center. We were surrounded by red and white checkered tablecloths […]

The Red Couch: A Woman’s Place Discussion

I’m sitting down to write this discussion post to the gentle whir of the washing machine. The thunder of my son’s turbo crawling is absent. Dad is on duty and while they are away eyeing treasures at the farmers market, I’m free to write. This is the only “adult” work I’ve done in a long […]

Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World + GIVEAWAY

This past April I celebrated 48 years of adopted living. In July we celebrated with our children 12 years of adopted family life. Adoption bookends my experience of family, both as daughter and as mother. Several years ago I noticed how more people were writing about adoption, but I didn’t recognize my experience in their words. […]

The Gate

“I had no idea, that the gate I would go through to finally enter this world would be the space my brother’s body made…” // For days now, that first line of Marie Howe’s poem “The Gate” has been echoing in my mind. Sometimes, my subconscious swaps out the word “brother” for “mother,” and I […]

When What Resonates With You Looks Ridiculous to Others

Have you ever felt a connection to a place without yet visiting it? A kinship with a people you’ve never met? That’s the way I felt when I first dreamed of going to South Asia. Tiny glimpses of a vibrant culture ignited a fire inside that didn’t make any sense, but wouldn’t let go of […]