I Believe in You

Ten years ago, when we first started The Refuge, my faith community in Denver, I received an unexpected donation from a friend with a simple note enclosed. It only said four words:  “We believe in you.” We believe in you. The minute I read those four words, I started to cry. And even now, years […]

Daughter, Your Faith has Healed You

By Marilyn Gardner | Twitter: @MarilynGard I grew up in Pakistan. As an only daughter in a house full of boys, my family treated me like a princess. I loved Pakistan. Pakistan was my home, the place of my earliest memories. All of my firsts happened there. As I grew up, I learned more about […]

Dear White Sister

Dear White Sister, It is time we have a heart to heart. We need to talk about race. I know. You may not want to talk about it, especially with a black woman, but we need this to happen if we are going to move forward. I need you to really listen. Your fear of […]

Hello, 40. It’s a Pleasure to Meet You

Right around the time you read this, I will mark my 40th birthday. It’s a strange number to reach.  In some ways turning 40 feels easier than turning 30. Thirty was strange; it felt old and other. I started wondering if I could consider myself young anymore. Forty feels less confusing, but more like a reckoning. […]

A Love that Disrupts

One of the great agitators of our time, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., said, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” A lot of people like to cherry-pick this quote from Dr. King’s legacy once a year, on his birthday. He was such a remarkable human, and […]