Being Human Is Hard Work

Back in the 1980’s, I was raised in the shadow and under the laugh track of the American family sitcom. What I learned from this brand of storytelling were two things: First, we were in desperate need of a laugh track in our home so that all of our real life, tense-filled interactions could be […]

A Love that Disrupts

One of the great agitators of our time, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., said, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” A lot of people like to cherry-pick this quote from Dr. King’s legacy once a year, on his birthday. He was such a remarkable human, and […]

The Love Mandala

There are well worn paths across the carpet which tell of their coming and going and all the myriad ways they were hemmed together as a piece over a day or two or a thousand. They still pull even in her absence The other day an aroma enveloped him like a cloud of witnesses And, […]

Rewriting a Love Story: On Becoming Real

“The opposite of faith is not doubt, but certainty.” —Anne Lamott “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.” —John 12:24 (ESV) We pulled into the driveway at my brother’s home after an hour-and-a-half-long ride […]

In Sickness and in Health

At the age of 21, I stood in a ridiculously huge white dress, grinning up at my new husband. We were young—I had graduated from university only a month before—and we were full of life and energy. As we knelt under the grand arch of the nave, we said our wedding vows with a naive […]