Note To Self: Always Flirt With Chinese Grandma At Bus Stop

There’s a small chip on my front tooth. I’ve had it fixed, but it’s so tiny, the repair doesn’t last. So, I smile with my chipped tooth and my eyes scrunched up and I see laugh lines with this haircut that showcases my whole wrinkly forehead. And I don’t care. I like that my face […]

Permission to Be Loved

We sat around the table on a Monday afternoon eating turkey sandwiches when my friend said, I’m bisexual. Um, please pass the honey mustard? It might have been the last place I expected our conversation to go that day. I felt honored when he trusted me with this part of his story. I listened and listened […]

Juicy Conversations: Kelley and Idelette Talk about Dangerous Women

A few months ago, a Walter Brueggemann sermon sparked a conversation between these two friends, Kelley Nikondeha and Idelette McVicker. Both have shared this week how that idea has taken shape in their hearts. On Monday, Idelette wrote: God Needs Dangerous Women? And Tuesday, Kelley wrote: Why Dangerous? Today, Idelette and Kelley invite us into a […]

God Needs Dangerous Women?

I’m learning that out of ordinary friendship, the most extraordinary—and potentially dangerous—alliance is possible. Last year, I spent five days with one such holy alliance: my friend Kelley Nikondeha. We talk almost every day. It’s a friendship in which we sharpen each other, encourage each other and talk a lot about how to live out […]

Don’t You Think Small

I stood in a basement church in Taipei when someone spoke these words to me: Don’t you think small. More than 15 years later, those words still rumble in the belly of my soul like the roar of a volcano. They come to me when I’m making plans and when I want to quit. They […]