Getting Real with Trisha: On Laughing


I think if you’ve glimpsed at, resided in and intimately known well some forms of hell on earth, laughter … laughing, is a balm for the wounds that seep in deep.

By Trisha Baptie | Twitter: @trisha_baptie

Quite possibly my fave activity is …  laughing.

For me it feels like the most natural thing to do, like breathing. It’s involuntary and a requirement for living and an excellent window into how I am doing that day, in a situation, in general. I notice if I don’t do it, my heart feels heavy, my mouth feels like it’s lacking some form of exercise. My soul–well, my soul feels like a chocolate cake without cocoa. Which is to say it’s no longer a chocolate cake; it’s not what it should be.

Healing Powers

I think if you’ve glimpsed at, resided in and intimately known well some forms of hell on earth, laughter … laughing, is a balm for the wounds that seep in deep.

I don’t mean cheap laughter; I’m not a cheap laughs kinda gal.

I also don’t mean the raunchy humor that is so prolific nowadays, based on sex, degradation of women or someone being stoned. That is cheap humor; knock- off humor that has no substance. No depth. No lasting benefit.

Oh, but to sit at a table with friends, loved ones, allies and have a laugh that is truly a under-appreciated form of therapy, a form of bonding that grows deep roots. For me, having the same sense of humor as someone can make or break a relationship.

I am a huge fan of political humor. Think Colbert and Rick Mercer.

I love humor that pokes fun at pop culture:

It’s hard to find a stand-up comedian to just sit and veg to. So many rely on cuss words as the main dish, rather than a condiment to be peppered on lightly, if at all. I truly enjoy Canada’s own Russell Peters, although as of late the way he peppers his shows with porn references as if that were normal and OK, gets my back up. But if you’re a child with immigrant parent(s) that beat you (my hand goes up), there is no one funnier to describe it.

Is it right?

Nope, not saying that.

But there is a feeling of being understood, identifying with something larger than you when you can hear someone share similar experiences and laugh.

We live in a world that can threaten to swallow us mind, body and soul whole. To me, laughter stops that from happening. Laughter is like kryptonite against the worst form of apathy.

Now I am not talking about laughing AT people. Well, maybe but only when appropriate ;0)

But laughter that comes from your pinky toe and follows your soul straight outta yo’ mouth. Now that … that … is living.


What about you?

  • What makes you laugh?
  • When was the last time you had a good belly rip with a friend?


About Trisha
Trisha Baptie is Executive Director of Honour Consulting and founding member of EVE (formerly Exploited Voices now Educating). In 2008 she won BC’s Courage to Come Back Award for her bravery in transitioning to a healthier lifestyle, for giving the murdered women of Vancouver a voice through her trial coverage of Vancouver’s serial killer and for her ongoing activism. Follow Trisha’s tweets at @trisha_baptie or friend her on facebook. She recently founded EVE (formerly Exploited Voices Now Educating.)

Image credit: LAUGHING GIRL © Ashleigh Ravenall |

Idelette McVicker
If you only know one thing about me, I'd love for you to know this: I love Jesus, justice and living juicy. I also happen to drive a minivan and drink my lattes plain. (My life is exciting enough!) Nineteen years ago, I moved from Taiwan to Canada to marry Scott. We have two teenagers, a preteen, a Bernese Mountain dog and a restaurant. (Ask Scott to tell you our love story.) In 2010, I founded and it has now grown to include a Dangerous Women membership community, a Red Couch Bookclub, events and gatherings. I'd like to think of it as curating transformational spaces for women in community. I long for women to be strong in our faith and voice, so we can be advocates for God’s heart for justice here on earth. As an Afrikaner woman, born and raised in South Africa during Apartheid, my story humbly compels me to step out for justice and everyday peacemaking. I have also seen firsthand the impact injustice has had on the lives and stories of women around the world. I refuse to stay silent. I am anti-racist and also a recovering racist. I am a Seven on the Enneagram, an INFP and I mostly wear black, with a dash of animal print or faux fur.
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