Wellness Wednesday: Making Big Things Happen


By Amelia Englemark | Twitter: @AmyEnglemark

“In the blink of an eye, my day, week or month is over and I’m sometimes left wondering, What was I working towards? Did I make any progress?”

Before I had kids, I was more spontaneous and spent much less time planning out what would happen in my future. I had goals and ideas of what I wanted to include in my life, but all in all, it was pretty laid back. Planning ahead felt regimented and less fun.

Now that I’m a mother, I actually see and experience the advantages of planning ahead. When I’m planning my day or week, I make certain things a priority. Instead of simply wanting to see people, go places, get work done, I now take a more proactive stance and make sure those things happen. Why?  Time can easily pass me by. In the blink of an eye my day, week or month is over and I’m sometimes left wondering, “What was I working towards?” “Did I make any progress?”

Setting priorities

Over time I am developing a system that allows me to identify and focus on my priorities:

Relationships – taking time to nurture family relationships and friendships.

Proactive work – focusing on staying in touch with the important contacts I have made, instead of dealing with daily emails or continually checking Facebook.

High impact goals – creating goals that will pay a big profit later, such as laying off large amounts of sugar in my diet, which will ultimately lead to long-term health and increased confidence.

Learning – reading the latest journal in my field for half an hour before bed instead of watching the most recent episode of a TV series I’m following.

Renewal – spending more time taking my kids out to ride the BMX track or going for a fun date with my husband.

In order to create a great future for myself, I need to take charge of my life. That means knowing myself and becoming fully involved in activities (or rest) that will enable me to blossom. When I make time to do the important things, I feel refreshed and much more able to tackle the items on my list that require more energy. When a crisis or unexpected event comes up, I am more prepared to handle it if I’ve made time for what matters.

When you take the time to think about it, you’ll know exactly what you need to dedicate more time to.


Working in tandem

In saying all of this, I know deep down that it’s not by my strength or my power that things are accomplished. Yes, I put forth the effort; I take the time to focus on my objective and push forward, but I am working in partnership with a special Someone, if you know what I mean—nudge-nudge, wink-wink. A Greater Force makes “light bulbs” turn on at just the right time.

Just when I wonder, “How will I ever be able to complete this task?”  I am given the energy I need.  Sometimes I really want to reach a certain goal but I don’t know what the next step is—then the light bulb goes on as an idea is dropped into my hands.

Stepping away from comfort

My path to being more organized and having more life balance has been interesting. This is not to say I have arrived at any particular destination. It’s more so felt like the path less travelled, because it hasn’t come naturally. With a little effort and forethought, I can now determine what my priorities are and make sure that what I’m focusing on is what is valuable to me. In order to accomplish goals that will fast forward my progress, I have had to assert myself more than I used to.

“Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.” – Jim Rohn

Five-minute challenge

I challenge you to take five minutes to sit down with a journal or daily planner and answer the following questions—hopefully they will bring you clarity and motivation. Put your answers somewhere where you will see them and be reminded of what you are capable of.

  1. What is YOUR proactive work? If you don’t know, how will you find out? How will you get to know yourself and perhaps try walking down a new avenue?
  1. How would it make you feel to do the creative, proactive work in your life that will change the world? This is possible you know!
  1. How would you feel if you started to put first things first? Would you feel more in control? At peace? Energized?
  1. What would happen if you focused on getting the right things done, instead of just getting things done? What type of extraordinary life could you create?


About Amy:

I am thankful for passion in my career and relationships and want others to enjoy the same. I am a Certified Professional Career and Life Coach and I empower executives and entrepreneurs to find and pursue their career passion. You can get to know me at www.amyenglemark.com.

I love hiking, mountain biking, travelling and any sort of adventure. I like to jump from the highest rock into the deepest water. I like to shout for joy.