Letting Go


Without deviation, progress is not possible. – Frank Zappa

Let-Go_800Sometimes you just have to admit that things are not working.

I am not talking about the “I’m having a bad day” kind of not working. On those days, there is a gin and tonic and a bubble bath with my name on it. I’ll just get up tomorrow and do it all over again.

No, I’m talking about when your dream is not working. Maybe you can’t raise enough money or find enough paying clients or secure space or find people to join your movement or believe in your cause or buy your stuff.

Your dream of helping and serving seems to be in vain.

You have prayed for strength and still…nothing.

You know that very scary moment when your stomach drops and that place deep in your gut tells you this is more than fear? When you are in THIS place, I want you to release this version of your dream.

I want you to EXHALE. Let. it. go.

Your dream of creating, starting, owning, founding, managing is kaput.

I want you to hear me when I say this:

It is okay to step away. Renew, refresh and rethink your dream. Listen to your heart, listen to the advice of experts and mentors and listen to the data.

Then, if necessary, release it.

Let that which is not serving you go—even if it’s something that you have created.

We all want progress, but if you’re on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road; in that case, the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive. ~C. S. Lewis

You have done heroic work by simply stepping up to make your dream a reality by will and determination.

But sometimes, even that is not enough. How will you spell relief? How do you make the decision to let go of what is?

Let expert advice support you. You cannot be expected to know and do everything. Invest in professional support: coaching or consulting to help you design programs; design strategy; create long term and short term plans; raise funds; invest in creating a real infrastructure.

Talk to mentors whom have been where you are.  Talk to folks and organizations that have recreated their lives, organizations and systems. Ask them how they did it. Every day there are stories of people who recover from financial devastation, divorce and illness. Find these people and learn from them.

Listen to your gut. Pray. Go to that place that only you know of, deep in your soul, where your truth is always spoken and you can find it if you listen. Most of the time you have to be still to hear it. That voice will tell you what you need to hear. You may have to dig through ego and your social self to get to this place.  Let. GO.

Let go so you can rebuild and reclaim a newer version of your dream. I will never tell you cannot do it—you just cannot do it as it is in this form.

You will find the way when you release that which is not serving you.

Grieve and give thanks.  Then get back in the game.

Things fall apart so they can come together stronger than ever.