Mija, God Doesn’t Make Mistakes


By Gloria O’Hare

My Grandma Cora has always been a firm believer in God. She never doubted His love and goodness, ever. She passed away this last December, and as heartbroken as I was and still am, I still have my memories of her I still hold on to. I cherish the words she always poured into me.

I was born with albinism. As a young girl, I was often made fun of because of my skin and hair color, and the way my eyes rapidly moved. Kids used words like “Casper,” “Whitey” and “Powder” to describe me. Those words? They hurt. They made me feel insecure, ugly, and abnormal. They were used to make fun of me for being different and not looking like everyone else.

One day, when I was around 11 or 12 years old, I sat at the counter while my Grandma Cora cooked breakfast and I asked her, “Grandma, why did I have to be born this way? I wish I could look Mexican like the rest of the family. I wish I can just look normal!”

“Mija, God doesn’t make mistakes,” she said. “He chose you to be His little glowing angel on earth, because He has big plans for you. You believe that!”

I will remember those words for the rest of my life, because after that day I stopped seeing my albinism as a curse and started feeling proud to stand out. I started to feel secure, beautiful, and worthy. I started to believe that God has a purpose for me. Her words sparked a fire in my soul that has grown ever since. Her words have helped shape who I am and what I believe.

As followers of Christ, it is our job to use our words to lead others to God, to show others the love of Jesus by fanning the embers that were kindled by those encouraging words—words that speak life into the souls of the lost and hurting. We should use words that exude gentleness, kindness, compassion, empathy, encouragement and love. Words that will spark a fire in someone’s heart and show them that they are loved, worthy, and they have a purpose.

In the same way that words can ignite a fire in our souls, they can also snuff it right out. Where there is light, there is also darkness. I love positive words—words that inspire, encourage and ignite us. I love to share them. I have seen and felt the impact of negative words—words that depress, discourage and dampen us. Whether it be from the unkind comments on a post, the depressing words of a tragic news story, or hate-filled speech.

Words can hurt. I know. Instead, let our words be the breath that blow on the embers that may, once again, ignite the fire in someone else’s soul

Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

“Start a fire in my soul
Fan the flame and make it grow
So there’s no doubt or denying
Let it burn so brightly
That everyone around can see
That it’s You, that it’s You that we need
Start a fire in me”
—Start A Fire, Unspoken


About Gloria:

I am a wife, a mom, a full-time employee, and a college student. I am graduating this year with my BA in Public Relations through California Baptist University. I am transitioning out of a full-time position at a faith-based preschool and setting out to work as a public relations practitioner for a non-profit organization dedicated to learning programs that educate children about nature and the environment. I love to read, write, and create anything crafty. Pinterest is my best friend. I have a lot of thoughts, and I just want to share them. “She believed she could, so she did.”