Sisters in Mental Illness: Healing Trauma Through Self Love


“Radical self love and radical self compassion is really one of the key ways to heal yourself from trauma. You have to release yourself. You have to choose yourself.” —Grace Sandra.

This month, Shaley sits down with award-winning blogger and author Grace Sandra. Grace has experienced postpartum depression, divorce and remarriage, childhood abuse, rape, miscarriages, partner abuse, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and more. More importantly, she embodies resiliency, vulnerability, power and beauty. You don’t want to miss this conversation!

About Grace:

I’m a Mama & a writer helping black women survive abuse & oppression through creativity, trauma recovery, self-development, entrepreneurialism & everyday wellness.

Check out Grace’s book Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood.

You can also connect with Grace on Instagram, Twitter or her blog.

Listen to Shaley’s chat with Grace below or visit

Content Warning: Mention of rape.


Sisters in Mental Illness is a vlog series where Shaley Hoogendoorn has real conversations with brave SheLovelys who are willing to share their experience living with a mental illness. We live in a time where one in four people struggle with a mental health disorder, so these conversations are very important. We will share ALL the stories—stories of sadness, madness, shame and struggle. The more we talk about hard things like mental health, the better we can understand and walk with and alongside our Sisters in Mental Illness. We can remind each other that our stories are not over yet. Together we can smash the stigma and stereotypes of mental illness, ONE story at a time.

Email subscribers, please click through to the website to watch the video. If you are struggling with any mental health issues, we hope you will reach out and seek professional help.

Shaley Hoogendoorn

Shaley Hoogendoorn

Shaley grew up in Northern BC in her family-built log home with loads of brothers. Her childhood was filled with snow, skates, hockey and huskies. Shaley has always had a small town heart with big city dreams. She is married to Rob and put down roots in PoCo with their smart and sassy tween girls. Shaley has no inner monologue, never follows a recipe and has the biggest hair in any room. Hands down. Shaley invests her heart into her family, her community and her world. She works as an elementary school teacher and an event planner. She is fiercely passionate about helping the next generation become peacemakers and world changers. She brings beauty and order to Women’s Events and everyday life. She believes in sisterhood and women telling their stories without judgement. She follows Jesus and believes that love always ALWAYS wins. Come follow her ramblings on Instagram at @shaley_hoogs and messybeautywithshaley @
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