This is a Love Story

This is a love story. But it starts with a heartbreak. A few weeks ago, my friend Emily found out that she wasn’t in the marriage she thought she had for the past three years. It turns out, her husband had been choosing someone else for the better part of two years, and that someone […]

The Tangled Truth of Love

“Enmeshed.” That was the word she used. She intertwined her fingers and tugged her hands, but they didn’t come apart. “It sounds like your identity was wrapped up in hers. When she died, a part of you did too.” I nodded, crying wordlessly. “It sounds like you need to rediscover yourself, as your self. Separate […]

To Love, We Have To Be There

I’m at war with myself. Maybe you understand what I mean: feeling that the best parts of ourselves can also be the worst. That the thing we are hungry for, is also the thing that will eat us alive if we’re not careful. That the things we’re gifted at—communication, organization, numbers, theology, politics, creativity—can become […]

Tend to the Beauty

A few years ago, I saw the artist Makoto Fujimura speak at a conference. My mother had died just eight months earlier and I could feel something slowly unraveling inside me. A second death, of sorts, taking place. I look back on it now and understand that my theology was rotting on the vine, exposing harmful […]

The First Devil

I finally made an appointment to go back to therapy. I’m not even sure what it was about this particular day that made me do it. It was not my lowest moment. It was definitely not my highest. It was just another day, and I was tired. I was just done with all of the […]