My Need to Belong

The wounds I learned to operate from early on in life were the ones that screamed, “You don’t belong. You’re not enough.” It sounds ridiculous. I come from a stable middle class white American family; I should have always known where I fit. Yet I don’t remember a time when I didn’t feel like I’d […]

Grief Draws Us to Belonging

As we rounded the corner, I saw the hearse. It was parked in front of the doors of First-Centenary United Methodist Church in Chattanooga, Tennessee and the finality took my breath away. This past Saturday, we shared in Rachel Held Evans’ funeral. I drove up from Atlanta with my dear friend Tina Francis-Mutungu and the miles […]

The Places I Saw the Face of God

I grew up in a family where we were measured by performance. In elementary school, we were given quarters for our A’s. We were given dessert if we finished all of our food on our plate. We were given shelves for all our trophies. I did not have a shelf. Sports was something I did not […]

The Power of a Place Holder

I always have more than one book on the go. In fact, I’m usually reading eight or 10 books at a time, including the audiobooks I’ve lovingly queued on my library app and three or four work-related research books. When I look across my desk or on the floor in my office or even piled three-deep on […]

The Tale of Two Tables

If I were to grade my hosting skills, I think a C+ is the best I could do. I love connecting with people and enjoy opening my home to friends and acquaintances. I look forward to cozy evenings filled with good conversation. I really do. It’s just all of the other stuff that goes along […]