When Deconstruction is the New D-Word

I didn’t know the divorce rate for friendships going in. I thought when you said “best friends,” you meant “forever.” Like a blood pact without the blood. My glittery puffy stickers from third grade said so, as did my half a locket buried in a box. Friendships were supposed to last through it all. I […]

Shame Is The Great Presence-Killer

Why have I heard from God? Why have I not heard from God? *** I was eight. Each night I got out a book of children’s prayers and tried to connect to God after my parents turned out the lights at bedtime. My family was falling apart that year in spectacular ways—in a few months, […]

You don’t have to be Thankful on Thanksgiving

Thursday is American Thanksgiving. It is a little late this year and people have used this an excuse to put up their Christmas trees and blare the holiday tunes. The schmultzy commercials have started and I may have already indulged in a Hallmark-esque movie or two. Spoiler Alert: The big city girl actually loves her […]

When Bravery Looks Like Homemade Bread Cake

By: Kailey Veenstra In building relationships with people who are different from us, we must decide: are we willing to risk saying the wrong things, risk hearing how we are a part of the problem? Are we willing to love and push through hurts that may come? We must risk exploring the problems we don’t […]

Keep Finding Ways to Gather

I’ve always been a gatherer. In middle and high school, I was the one who threw the parties and coordinated going to lunch together. In college, I got a little more intentional, nurturing life in my sorority in new ways and creating small pockets to stay better connected to each other. Early marriage my husband, […]