Marriage: Beyond the Toothpaste Cap

The pastor assigned to conduct our pre-marital counselling tilted back in his seat and smiled wryly at us. He must have known, looking at our young, eager faces. How very unprepared we were. How little we knew about making a life together. Perhaps he thought we wouldn’t heed his advice, in our freshly engaged, love-soaked […]

When I Hate Greeting People on Sundays

This is going to make me sound like a misanthrope, but I hate greeting people on Sundays. At my church’s weekly service, a pastor gives the announcements, dismisses the children for Sunday school, and then cheerfully announces that we should greet the people around us in the pews. On the worst days, they give us […]

Listening To vs Learning From

These days we hear a lot about the importance of listening to voices from the margins. For so long, the dominant voices have been held by mostly male, mostly white leaders—not only in the church and ministry, but also in high levels of countless systems. Slowly but surely things are shifting in small and healing […]