Launching SheLoves Church

When a virus isolates us, we lean in to the opposite spirit. Here on SheLoves, even more than before, we’re leaning in to safe online community. COVID-19 days feel scary and uncertain, yes. Yesterday, our family restaurant closed—for how long we don’t know. And yet, I hope and trust in a God who looks after the […]

When Deconstruction is the New D-Word

I didn’t know the divorce rate for friendships going in. I thought when you said “best friends,” you meant “forever.” Like a blood pact without the blood. My glittery puffy stickers from third grade said so, as did my half a locket buried in a box. Friendships were supposed to last through it all. I […]

Deconstructing The Good Church Girl I Used To Be

I had been born and raised in the church to be a Good Church Girl. I was taught by sincere and loving people to be sincere and loving. I believed what the Bible clearly said, and deferred to my pastors and leaders whenever I had questions. This, I was taught, was how I could be […]

Back When I Knew Everything

I met Ron when I was 19. We worked together in a gym referred to as the “orange bubble” because of the giant orange covering over the outdoor tennis courts. Few people in town could recall the actual name of the gym, but everyone knew the orange bubble. It was my first job in the […]

For Those Who Don’t Belong

I had two hours of time to myself while the nurse watched my daughter. I decided to spend that time attending a local group for moms at the church down the street. I was a newly-minted mom, so it seemed like a good idea to get to know other women at a similar stage in life. I […]