Thank You for Loving Me Over the Long Haul

I’ve seen a whole lot of Valentine’s Day celebrations in my long life. Some of them have been memorable; most of them were over before they made an impact. A few were golden. Those shiny ones are fun to recall—when love was new and we were young. Sweet cards and notes, saved over the years, […]

When Deconstruction is the New D-Word

I didn’t know the divorce rate for friendships going in. I thought when you said “best friends,” you meant “forever.” Like a blood pact without the blood. My glittery puffy stickers from third grade said so, as did my half a locket buried in a box. Friendships were supposed to last through it all. I […]

Deconstructing The Good Church Girl I Used To Be

I had been born and raised in the church to be a Good Church Girl. I was taught by sincere and loving people to be sincere and loving. I believed what the Bible clearly said, and deferred to my pastors and leaders whenever I had questions. This, I was taught, was how I could be […]

A Recipe For A Feast Worth Sharing

I didn’t want her to see me fumble around with the spices she effortlessly wielded. She had been making these dishes her whole life, learning at the side of her Amma. This was my second attempt at making the fancy chicken roast and fragrant pulau, Bengali staples. My friend says they are her comfort food. […]

I’ll Bring the Rum Cake

for H & K & Z I have to brake hard at the light, and my right arm shoots out to the seat beside me. I’m not protecting a person, or even a particularly breakable item. It’s a cake. Wrapped in foil, teetering precariously on the seat. My quick reflexes hold it in place. I […]