Thank You for Loving Me Over the Long Haul

I’ve seen a whole lot of Valentine’s Day celebrations in my long life. Some of them have been memorable; most of them were over before they made an impact. A few were golden. Those shiny ones are fun to recall—when love was new and we were young. Sweet cards and notes, saved over the years, […]

Deconstructing The Good Church Girl I Used To Be

I had been born and raised in the church to be a Good Church Girl. I was taught by sincere and loving people to be sincere and loving. I believed what the Bible clearly said, and deferred to my pastors and leaders whenever I had questions. This, I was taught, was how I could be […]

You Are An Immaculate Measure Of Grace

A Short Blessing For The New Year (Especially For Women of Color): You are an immaculate measure of grace. Every fiber, every molecule, every atom that builds and holds you together, tells the story of how truly magnificent your presence on this earth is. The space you take up is the space you bless. Your […]

Holy Incantations and Vessels for Light

Every night I lie down with my son. There are books that have told me that he should be able to fall asleep on his own. That it is not necessary to stay with him until he drifts off, mouth slack, fingers twitching. But, in this case, I am not under the influence of other […]

She Is Enough, She is Perfect

Trigger Warning: Mention of sexual assault and suicidal ideation *** I was born needing to be fixed. They didn’t have the fancy ultrasounds forty-some years ago, so I came out bloody and ready to breathe life into the world—except I could barely breathe. I was born disfigured; my lip was attached to the bottom of […]